CAROLAN'S CORNER

LIONS CLUB SPEECH CONTEST

2012-01-22T13:19:00.000-08:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G

One of the perks of being a Toastmaster, whether fairly new, or an old veteran like me, is that you learn skills that you can use along the way to help others. Once you’ve mastered the fine art of giving feedback to a speaker, when you evaluate their performance, their delivery, body language, voice, pace, pausing, organization and sometimes their content too, you will have opportunities to give feedback to other speakers outside your Toastmaster club. You won’t even have to look for them, they will find you!

When I evaluate a Toastmaster Club member, or I am acting as the General Evaluator of a meeting, I always tell the speakers that we (evaluators) are not paid critics, rather we are there to give “constructive feedback” to the speaker. This helps them to relax a little knowing that we are not going to criticize them. Our goal is simply to point out what they did well and where and how they might improve.

Over the years, I’ve been asked to be a judge in a speech contest for high school teens sponsored by some civic club. At these events, the speakers use numbers as an introduction rather than their names, to eliminate favoritism, etc. Last Sunday was no exception. I was invited by the Encinitas Lions Club to be a judge for their annual speech contest. It is always a thrill for me to do this because I love hearing what our youth thinks, how they research their topic and how they deliver it. It’s a great opportunity to give back to the community.

The topic last Sunday was, I thought, a difficult one: “What Can The America of Yesterday Teach The America of Today!” I thoroughly enjoyed every minute of it. Each student had original content, great quotations and concrete examples. I particularly liked one student who talked about our Founding Fathers and the Right To Vote, along with the Great Depression and the apathetic attitude today towards voting. In a presidential election year it brought home the importance of getting out there to vote!

After the contest, I got to speak to each contestant, congratulate them and give them some personal feedback. They each received a money gift depending on their placement in the contest. It was a win-win situation for all! Here’s to future contests!.

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

CHRISTMAS MIRACLES

2011-12-26T21:07:00.000-08:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G

This past year has been fraught with health challenges for me right up until Christmas. The worst time was between October and December 2011 when I was in excruciating pain 24/7 and I thought my back would come off its hinges. For instance, on a scale of 1-10, the pain was 100! That gives you some idea of what I was up against. Pain killers and muscle relaxants were useless! A CT scan and MRI were also useless.

December came, and I thought about what kind of a life I wanted to live in 2012. I knew I had to get out of this pain first. That was a top priority. Next came seeing myself in good health and walking 1-2 miles a day without oxygen and without a walking cane (as I did the Spring of 2009 before everything hit the fan). Pretty important stuff. Once again, I refused to accept that my age was the sole culprit for my present circumstances.

Well this week leading up to Christmas was a turning point in my life. After a lot of praying for help and relief I experienced miracles happening! Yes, folks, Santa is alive and well! Wednesday morning I had Physical Therapy and in afternoon I saw Dr. Patel, the pain specialist, expecting to have the first in a series of epidurals. (The day before, Tuesday) I saw two MDs. My co-payment for these (4) doctors in (2) days was $150.00.

Would you believe Dr. Patel said I didn’t need the epidural because the physical therapy was helping me and that I should cancel the next appointment on 12/28 but keep the 1/4/2012 appt. I went to check out and Danielle, the secretary, asked me what Dr. Patel did to me. I said “Nothing – he just talked to me.” She said “Wait a minute,” then came back and handed me back my co-payment check! I was stunned. I figured they’d keep it as a “consultation” fee.

So, three (3) miracles occurred:

1. I didn’t need the epidural because I’m not in the severe pain as before.
2. I got my co-payment check back.
3. I was able to give my newspaper carrier (woman) a nice check for Christmas.

Ain’t that something! I’m walking on air! To be out of that dreadful pain is a miracle in itself.

Yes, folks, Santa is alive and well and miracles are happening… Folks, I do hope you are experiencing similar miracles, or kindnesses from your fellow man. If so, do email me at: artistwithaflair@att.net and let me know.

HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2011 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article please give me credit and a link back. Thank you.
Labels: Inspiration

THE NUTCRACKER IS ALIVE AND WELL!

2011-12-10T11:11:00.000-08:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG

When I lived in San Francisco I always treated myself, at Christmas-time, to a performance of “The Nutcracker.” I’ve carried on that tradition since moving to Southern California December 1997. To me Christmas isn’t Christmas without seeing a production of The Nutcracker…

I’m happy to say that there are some wonderful productions here in San Diego County. A few years back I got to see it performed by the famous Kirov Ballet Company in Escondido. I’ve also seen it performed by many local Junior Ballet Companies. The costumes are so different, varied and colorful, as are the renditions.

Last night was no exception. I had the privilege of seeing a “dress rehearsal” with some friends of this wonderful ballet featuring The Junior Ballet Ensemble, a non-profit organization created in 1997. (Their mission is to provide under-privileged youth and under-served seniors with a beautiful, and enriching cultural experience).

The cast was superb. Playing Herr Drosselmeyer was Thomas Deak,
Clara was Jessie Fendler, and the Nutcracker was played by Jonathan Shapiro. Of course, the music by Tchaikovsky was exquisite.

Other performances throughout the weekend will be held at the Sunshine Brooks Theater, 217 North Coast Hwy, Oceanside. For more information please call: 760-433-8900, www.oceansidetheater.org.

I encourage you to set a new tradition for yourself at Christmas. If you already have one I’d love to hear from you.

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663

http://www.shirleycarolan.com

http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com

http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

MAKING DECISIONS THAT EMPOWER YOU!

2011-10-24T14:42:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G

Over the years I’ve complimented myself on making decisions that have improved my life, welfare, education, etc. But, there were some serious voids that I didn’t want to confront. For example, I found myself making decisions based on what I could afford rather than what I needed, especially when it came to vacations. Sadly, I still do this today but now understand what’s behind such vacation decisions …

For many weeks I’d had severe back pain (24/7) that left me incapacitated. All home remedies were useless. Finally, I sort chiropractic help. My health insurance does not cover chiropractors. But, I was in enough pain that I knew I could not put a price tag on my health! Luckily, the universe stepped in to help. The mail brought a flyer from Dr. Farthing, my chiropractor of many years, offering a new service of adjustments only. I quickly made an appointment and now after three visits feel like a new woman! I am ecstatic that I gave myself permission to take action based on what I needed versus on what I could afford.

As a result, I am more determined than ever to get my health back by eventually discarding the walker, cane, and oxygen tank. Relying daily on the walker means that I’ve let some muscles atrophy. Hence, I’m unable to walk without this help. I know I need more patience with myself and must not expect miracles overnight. I plan to chart some small progress daily instead of giving up too quickly because I can’t reach my goal fast enough.

This means that some day I will travel again to places I’ve longed to visit, particularly Ireland where my ancestors are from. In order to trudge through museums, castles, churches, pubs, the countryside, etc. I must be able to walk without any impediments. Today, I would plan such a vacation without worrying about affording it but based on what I need to accomplish to enjoy a richer, fuller, happier life! Yes, I now have two very worthwhile goals to pursue: better health and a wonderful vacation based upon what I need rather than what I can afford.

Take a look at your life. Are you making decisions based on what you can afford versus upon what you need? I urge you not to shortchange yourself. You can’t put a price tag on health or vacations. Both are necessary to stay rejuvenated. I’m NOT saying you should spend your life savings or go into massive debt with no way of paying it off. Rather, journal about it and see where you can make some creative changes, improvisations or short cuts to help you reach your dreams. I guarantee you’ll be glad you did! Let me know your thoughts on this subject.

Bon voyage!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663

http://www.shirleycarolan.com

http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com

http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU!

2011-10-09T13:53:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATM

It would be remiss of me to let any more time go by without thanking all you wonderful people who have left such encouraging messages this past year on my website www.shirleycarolan.com .

I want you to know that I sincerely I appreciate your taking the time to read my (website) articles and then writing me a comment, suggestion or two, and/or forwarding them on to your friends. Some of you even suggested that I sell my articles on-line and elsewhere. I am giving that some thought. What is fascinating is that you come from all over the globe, from various industries, and both sexes. I am deeply touched!

I’ve tried to reach some of you by email, but others just left their website address. Hence, I want to answer a few of your questions here.

Firstly, I started my website and blogs with different objectives in mind. Secondly, I write my own articles, about things that interest me, with each having an “a hah” moment. This way I don’t have to please someone else and I keep control of my writing. It’s amazing what lessons or new ideas can come from ordinary, everyday, events that happen. I feel the universe is teaching me there is more than one point of view, that I don’t need to be a captive of my emotions, or give my power away; that I can validate myself honestly and truthfully, that there are no coincidences but many realities… Little did I know this philosophy would resonate with so many of you…

Lastly the website was designed by a professional several years ago but has since been modified. Sorry, I do not know which software/platform she used.

In closing, I hope that you will continue to read and enjoy my articles, leave me a comment, or contact me directly with any pressing question and I will get back to you.

Cheerio, Ciao, Auf Weidersehen!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2011 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article. Thank you.

TOASTMASTER CONTESTS BEGIN!

2011-09-16T13:51:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG

It’s that time of year when Toastmasters International Clubs all over the globe start having their two annual Fall contests: The Humorous Speech Contest, and the Evaluation Contest. The winners at the Club level than proceed to the Area level and compete with contestants from clubs within their Area. Next follows the Division level contest, and finally the big daddy of all, the District Speech Contests.

Right before the Labor Day holiday my club, Tick Talk Toastmasters, Carlsbad, Calif. held it’s two contests. The Humorous Speech contest lived up to its name with some top candidates vying for first place. The winner is Erik Huber, a former navy SEAL, who regaled us with stories from his life.

The Evaluation Contest is more serious. A guest speaker, usually one unknown to the contestants, delivers a 5-7 minute speech on a topic of their choice that they would like to get some feedback on. The participants in this contest get five (5) minutes to assess the speech, and deliver a report using highly technical criteria, and come up with an evaluation of how the speech impacted them, what the strengths and weaknesses were, with concrete suggestions for improvement. Some criteria used in judging the speech are: Body language, vocal variety, clarity, effectiveness, purpose, correct grammar, a clear opening, body, and conclusion with something the audience can take home with them, e.g., What’s In It For Me (WIIFM)?

All evaluators are sequestered as they write up their report. Then, all must hand in their reports and pens to the Sargent @ Arms while the first contestant is led back into the main room to give their report. The other evaluation contestants therefore, have no idea what each Evaluator has to say to the guest speaker and audience.

This year, we had three very three very competent evaluators: Our Club President, Carole Sheckler, a seasoned Toastmaster, Dan McKeon, and a 30 year veteran, yours truly, Shirley Carolan. I was very happy to compete in this contest having been absent during August due to cataract surgery. Even though I have 30 years’ of experience behind me, it is surprising how rusty one can get.

I am pleased to say that I won the Evaluation Contest. I used the “Three P’s” method for evaluating: “Posture, Pausing, and Pacing.” For posture I described how the speaker used his hands, with the no-no fig leaf position, then rubbing his hands together, etc. I complimented him on his pausing and pacing throughout and his excellent slides. Lastly, I gave him three suggestions for improvement: Get a laser pointer for his slides, thus avoiding talking to his slides with his back to the audience, which muffled his voice. Next, to watch his body language, particularly his hand movements which were a bit distracting, and lastly, to watch his grammar, particularly his word endings which were a bit slurred.

Now it’s off to the Area Contest and competing with all the clubs in our Area! What fun! Maybe I’ll see you there?

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG

Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
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CATARACT SURGERY

2011-08-14T13:44:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G

Thank God I am now over the fear of cataract surgery! Despite the good wishes, and advice from family, friends and neighbors that cataract surgery is a “piece of cake” I could not get my head around the fact that I was facing it last Monday morning. I truly was dragged kicking and screaming to surgery. I have a fear of pain. You might call me a professional coward. And, you’d be right. I even told the nurse to have that “piece of cake” ready for me when I came out of surgery! Now, I can honestly say the fear of that surgery was the worst part and I’m sure glad it’s over.

This is turning out to be a noteworthy summer... one I never would or could have planned myself. Had I known ahead of time some of the events that would transpire I doubt I would have had the courage to face them. I say this because it all started at the end of May, with the loss of my beloved little Shih-Tzu, Krissy, to being attacked and killed by a coyote. I had her for 10 wonderful years. She was almost like the daughter I never had. Her loss still weighs heavily on me but I am learning to forgive myself and stop blaming myself for what happened.

A month later I adopted an adorable, golden, one year old, cocker/poodle named Teddy from the animal shelter. He is very active and so lovable and I am truly blessed to have him in my life. I’ve made a few adjustments to help him fit in although he is still afraid of riding in the car. I am working on this because my other two dogs went everywhere with me. He wants a lot of loving but he also gives a lot of loving too. He is teaching me new lessons, particularly Patience!

I am working on raising my energy vibrations, doing meditations, affirmations and journaling so I can clear out all the old and sad memories. Hence, I am working with an energy healer is this regard. My dream is to be able to able to walk 1-2 miles daily without oxygen or walker!

Perhaps I will look back on the summer of 2011 some day and say “that was the summer that was!”

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2011 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article. Thank you.

GRIEF …

2011-07-25T16:01:00.000-07:00

By Shirley Carolan, ATM

Grief is so personal and yet a necessary part of the human condition. I’m sure it’s there to teach us to live, laugh and enjoy each day to the fullest that we have on this beautiful planet … to focus on the NOW instead of spending time and energy focusing on our loss... Without grief, we probably would not appreciate all the other wonderful things happening around and in us. Even animals are not immune to loss and suffering …

Yes, the opposite of grief is joy. But I am not there yet! Somehow, I still mourn the loss of my little Shih-Tzu, Krissy, on May 25, 2011. I blame myself for what happened to her even though I am aware that will not bring her back, or, change what happened. I don’t feel that I’m on the pitty-pot, but rather expressing my loss in the only way I know how. How long will it take me to get over her? Perhaps never … but I’m sure over time the pain will lessen and I will understand or see what lesson I can learn from the tragedy. Therein lies my liberation.

What happened in Oslo this weekend, and the incredible loss of human life is inconceivable. I can’t get my mind around it. The loss and grief families, friends, teachers, leaders, neighbors, etc. must be experiencing is mind blowing. How they mourn, and try to rebuild their lives is entirely up to them and my heart goes out to them.

Also, the tragic loss of Amy Winehouse, at such a young age, in London leaves thousands mourning and asking WHY? Why did this happen?

We may never know the full answers to any of the above, but it’s important to acknowledge those we loved and be grateful they were an important part of our life. We are the person we are today because they touched our lives in some meaningful way!

Perhaps if I had Krissy in my life today I would not have my little cocker/poodle, Teddy and he might still be living in that animal shelter. He is truly a joy to have and be around and brings new meaning to my life. He is totally unaware of my loss and that’s OK! I continue to miss Krissy but am grateful for all the wonderful things she brought into my life… especially unconditional love!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

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MEET TEDDY...BEAR!

2011-07-11T19:28:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G

Yesterday, July 10, 2011, I celebrated 3 three weeks with my new, adorable, rescue shelter dog! Teddy is one year 3 weeks old. He is a golden cocker/poodle, very calm and low key. I must learn how to get pictures of him posted because he is truly adorable.

I had not realized the benefits of having a rescue shelter dog before. The fee ($105.00) is well worth it because Teddy has been neutered, microchipped, checked over by a shelter vet for an ear infection, his one-year license, and his first visit to an outside vet all included.

My biggest challenge todate is to get Teddy in my car. He is petrified of it, but I hope I can help him overcome his fears! Before I had him groomed he looked like a sheep dog and you could not see his beautiful eyes. His fur was badly matted too. When I went back to the groomer to pick Teddy up I did not recognize him. I saw the groomer with this cute dog and said: “Oh, isn’t he cute?” She said “You think so?” I said “Yes!” She said “Well, you should like him, he’s yours!”

Teddy loves other animals, all shapes, sizes and gender. I don’t think he has a mean bone in his body. He likes people too, not kids and some men scare him if they move too quickly… I’ve only heard him bark 5 times in three weeks and all for a good reason!

I’m still healing over the loss of my little Shih-Tzu, Krissy, when she was attacked and killed by a coyote on May 25. She was the daughter I never had. I think she would approved of Teddy and I know he would love her to death!

Thank you God for giving me the courage and wisdom to adopt Teddy. I pray we will have many happy and rewarding years together!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2011 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article. Thank you.

MEET TEDDY!

2011-06-26T21:36:00.000-07:00

by Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG

I am a golden Cocker/Poodle, 1 year-old male whose name is TEDDY. My hair is a mess, I have an ear infection, but see the Vet this Friday! I met Shirley last weekend at the SDSPCA. She came back Sunday and took me home with her. Boy am I glad because I need a lot of loving and I give a lot of loving too.

Shirley needs to be with me and train me this week, so she can't come to TOASTMASTERS. Can someone fill her place as General Evaluator?

Thank you very much. I hope to meet you all soon because she doesn't stop talking about you!

TEDDY,

IN THE BEGINNING …

2011-06-03T17:32:00.000-07:00

By Shirley Carolan, ATM-G

My name is Krissy and I am writing this post from “Doggie Heaven.” I am a pure bred, 12 pound, black and white Shih-Tzu who was brought here to California from Texas. My first owners were a lovely young couple who lived in an upstairs apartment in Vista. I shared this space with another little dog. Things were OK until the new baby arrived. My young mistress found she could not handle all three of us in this small space. Hence, at age two I was put up for adoption.

Don’t you know I lucked out. My next caretaker, Shirley, had just lost her little male, Pug-Terrier, Jake. She had no intention of getting another dog so soon after Jakey passing. After all, it not even been a week since his passing.

However, God works in mysterious ways. Shirley came, saw me, and took me home with her! That was 10 wonderful years ago.

All my love, Krissy-Pooh!

MY NAME IS KRISSY!

2011-05-28T10:00:00.000-07:00

By Shirley Carolan, ATM-G

I am writing this post from “Doggie Heaven.” My wonderful owner, Shirley, is grieving over my loss on Tuesday, May 25, 2011, when a coyote attacked and killed me at 11 PM. I want her to know it was not her fault. I had a habit of wanting to tinkle before I got up on her bed for the night. She had no idea the coyote was there and neither did I.

I had over 10 wonderful years with Shirley and I believe I came into her life to show her how to live each day to the fullest, with kindness, respect, compassion, and love for all God’s creatures. She was a good learner. When she is over her grief, I know she will write about me, because that is what she does. You see she’s a writer.

Meantime, she knows I love her and am looking down on her from “Doggie Heaven” and hoping she is not blaming herself and will heal soon.

All my love, from “Krissy-Pooh!

Labels: grief

posted by Carolan's Corner at 9:51 AM

GRI

WOUNDED WARRIORS WELCOME TOASTMASTERS!

2011-05-13T12:52:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G

Once again, it's a joy to share the wonderful communications and leadership skills I have fine-tuned through my 31 years with Toastmasters International! And, I cannot think of a more worthy audience than our wounded warriors who are trying to regain some semblance of order in their lives after serving our country in Iraq, Afghanistan, or Pakistan, some even serving several tours of duty.

The wounded warriors battalion at Camp Pendleton invited Carlsbad’s Tick Talk Toastmaster Club to the base, on Tuesday. May 10, 2011, to demonstrate how Toastmaster meetings work, while highlighting the different roles and functions each Toastmaster plays during a meeting, The warriors learned the importance of impromptu speaking (Table Topics), the components of giving a good speech, constructive feedback to the speaker through a brief evaluation, and Robert’s Rules of Order for a meeting.

It was a well-timed , educational and fun assignment for all. The warriors were invited to attend Tick Talk’s regular meetings on Thursdays, from 7 PM to 8:30 PM, at Carlsbad-by-the-Sea, 2855 Grand Avenue, Carlsbad. The warriors may also form their own Toastmaster Club on the base. Stay tuned for more information.

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2011 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you.

OCEANSIDE DAYS OF ART

2011-04-20T18:49:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G

This weekend, my city held its annual, two-day, Outdoor Art Fair. The weather was magnificent and the setting was beautiful, since it was held down at the Civic Center amid the lovely fountains there. This event is sponsored by an all volunteer group – The Oceanside Cultural Arts Group. I can’t thank them enough!

I spent all Sunday afternoon there, oohing and aahing over art, pottery, blown glass, jewelry, dream catchers, etc. There must have been 100 featured artists as well as multiple food vendors, including the Knights of Columbus selling their famous hot dogs and hamburgers. I chose tacos from the St. Mary’s Youth Group.

Just prior to this event, I was mulling over how my health had changed, and how I had not been able to attend it for the last 2 years! A 10 day hospital stay ruined everything back then and I have not fully recovered my energy or walking ability. I was feeling a bit sorry for myself and asked myself “How much fun can I have when I have to get around with a walker?” That’s going to be a drag!

It’s amazing what good can happen when you have a shift in your thoughts. I told myself how lucky I was to be able to drive this year and not be stuck in a hospital bed! That did it. I’m so glad I had a change of heart because I had a wonderful afternoon. Parking was a snap, especially with a handicapped sticker. Also, I saw several others with their walkers enjoying themselves. My walker became a god-send because I could sit down and rest a few minutes if I got tired and still be amidst all the activity.

This experience also taught me to venture out to other events and not make the walker an excuse for not going! Folks are always out there to help you and share with you. That’s part of what I like about this fair. I visited “Artists Alley” between North Coast Highway and Pier View Way. There were some fantastic art pieces and pottery by folks in the military as well as senior citizens. They told me they wanted more folks to exhibit next year. Don’t you know I filled out the application and told them to count me in! Yippee! It’s back to the canvas and oils for me.

If you have a handicap I hope I’ve inspired you to overcome it and enjoy what life has to offer. Perhaps the best part about this fair is that its free! I look forward to seeing you at the fair next year!

H'm, I see a speech or two here for my Toastmaster Club!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2011 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you.

THE GOLDEN TRIANGLE

2011-03-21T15:28:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G

I am so blessed to live on the verge of what is known as the “Golden Triangle,” that encompasses the communities of Carlsbad, Oceanside and Vista. These three cities really cater to the needs of their senior citizens. They offer wonderful programs/workshops and new, on-going learning experiences, and opportunities to make new friends if so inclined.

Last month, I discovered the exciting “Carlsbad Film Series.” Not only is the series free, but before each performance we receive an excellent introduction of the cast, crew, and author. Set layouts and scenery are described along with the hazards of filming on location, etc. At the conclusion of the movie there is a question and answer period that allows you a glimpse of how others view the material, story line, and acting, etc. I enjoy this as much as the actual movie.

In February the 4 films selected were: “The Kids are All Right,” “Amelia,” “The Reader,” and “Elizabeth The Golden Age.” They were chosen to highlight the talent of today’s leading young actresses; each having won one academy award, and each being nominated several times for additional academy awards.

The first film featured Annette Bening and Julianne Moore in a funny and very modern American family. ”Amelia” based on the famous American aviatrix’s life, Amelia Earhart, who was played by Hilary Swank. Hilary gave a marvelous performance of the complicated aviatrix. I came away with a totally different impression of Amelia Earhart and find myself in the camp of those who thought she should not have continued on the last leg of her journey.

Kate Winslet played the lead in “The Reader,” and I am still mesmerized by it and still talking about it. Entertaining does not even begin to describe this movie perhaps because it is set in Europe, in post World War II where I lived. Kate’s performance is nothing short of riveting as Hanna Schmitz, a lonely, uneducated, working-class woman who has an affair with a teenage boy. Later they reconnect as Hanna goes on trial for her part as an SS guard at one of the notorious concentration camps. Sadly, it is her lack of being able to read or write that seals her doom … Ralph Fiennes rounds out this wonderful cast.

The final film has Cate Blanchett portraying “Queen Elizabeth” in this gripping, historical thriller, loaded with intrigue and betrayal. Suspense permeates the film to the very end. Cate’s portrayal of Queen Elizabeth is also riveting!.

Each week I asked neighbors to join me but sadly most were not interested. It’s another lesson in life to go solo to interesting events rather than miss them! I am so happy and pleased that I took advantage of what the community offers. Now, I am now looking forward to the next film series. We voted on whom we thought the best young male actors of today are with star quality. It will be interesting to see whom got selected and why! Stay tuned!

Meanwhile, I encourage you to check out cultural activities for folks in your communities!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

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PRIORITIZING MY PRIORITIES!

2011-03-16T15:45:00.000-07:00

By Shirtley M. Carolan, ATM-G

Whoa! This month is speeding by as I extricate myself from information and hobby overload! It’s OK to have hobbies, I’m all for them. They keep you amused, entertained and off the streets. They even stimulate your little grey cells and can make you an interesting person to be around! But, when they encroach on your priorities it’s time for you/me to finally take a stand.

At the beginning of the month I was primed to write three different articles on some fun things I discovered: Advanced numerology, astral projection, chakra healing (which lead to EFT) etc. Now, I am calling a halt to all extraneous “hobbies/activities” and am going to concentrate full time on my writing skills. I have so much material I want to get published… consequently, when not seriously writing I will reward myself by indulging in my hobbies!

I probably will even get more done by using discipline to do first things first (writing) and then enjoying my leisure time. When I worked full time I had no problem with discipline and getting a job done. But, retirement is a different ballgame! It’s easy to get distracted by emails pitching all kinds of wonderful new ideas and quickly falling into mind overload!

Volunteering is another matter I need to curtail if it interferes with my writing schedule. And, I do intend to establish a schedule so that I can chart my progress and outline small, medium and long term goals and deadlines!

For those of you who are interested in advanced numerology I highly recommend this website: www.Numerologist.com. Blair Gorman does a wonderful job and you can even get a mini free reading from him! Also, Kimberly Powell has a wonderful genealogy web site with fabulous resources and articles over at www.About.com. May you get hooked as much as I did!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2011 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you.

A MAGICAL MONTH!

2011-02-28T16:09:00.000-08:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G

February turned out to be a magical month, despite a few early setbacks, which I now have a handle on. I am happy to say I’ve developed new hobbies – things I’ve been interested in for years but never seemed to have time to explore, e.g., “Astral Projection,” “Remote Viewing,” and more in depth “Numerology.” Despite having some wonderful hard cover books on numerology, I discovered a fascinating website with more data and software which, of course, I ordered. More on this later.

I’m still very interested in genealogy and am pursuing my writing career. Yesterday, I visited the Holistic Faire in Carlsbad and spent a wonderful day there. More on all these exciting pursuits coming up. They’ve certainly given me a lot of fodder for articles, blogs, and streamlining my writing in general.

Stay tuned for more!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

CARLSBAD LIONS SPEAK!

2011-02-25T15:43:00.000-08:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G

It is always a joy to be called upon to be a judge at a Lion’s Club Annual Student Speakers Contest. Recently, I had the pleasure of representing my Carlsbad Toastmaster Club, Tick Talk Toastmasters in that capacity.

The goal of the contest is to encourage youth involvement, develop self-esteem, confidence in public speaking and offer financial scholarships for the formal education of the students.

The topic was “Enforcing Our Borders: State vs. Federal Rights” which is very current, relevant and challenging! Each student prepared an original, 10 minute speech on this subject which included extensive research, ideas and conclusions.

Students participating were: Samuel Gardner, Priscilla Keyrollos, and Yujia Pan. The winner was Yujia Pan who will now go on to participate at the Zone level.

Joining me as judges were: Joni Wilson, head of 3-D Voice Training System, and Annette Hubbell, a civil war storyteller. Elaine Brummell was the Chairperson for this outstanding event.

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer● Speaker● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

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GENEALOGY GUEST SPEAKER

2011-01-28T20:34:00.000-08:00

By Shirley Carolan, ATM-G

January certainly started off with a bang! I arranged for an expert genealogist, Margaret Read, of the North San Diego County Genealogical Society, to address my Tick Talk Toastmaster Club in Carlsbad, CA earlier in the month. It took a lot of preparation but was well worth it.

First, I designed a flyer that could be posted in public places, and sent by email to all Toastmaster Clubs in San Diego county, as well as personally hand delivering them to several businesses. Since I had an RSVP I expected to be deluged with calls.

Next I notified the news media throughout the county of the event. It was so good to see the article I wrote appear in several newspapers. I even sent it to on line media news cites.

Appropriate seating arrangements had to be made as well as tailoring our regular Agenda to accommodate a guest speaker. Refreshments were ordered, with some members bringing extra treats.

A biography had to be acquired as well as a brief introduction by myself. Also, I arranged for a “Certificate of Appreciation” to be awarded to Margaret Read by our new President, Carol Sheckler, at the conclusion of our meeting.

By opening the event to the public we felt it would be a win-win situation for both our Toastmaster Club and the Genealogical Society. Our guest speaker gave a wonderful introduction into Genealogy and was adroit at handling all the questions asked of her at the end of her presentation.

Was the event a success? You bet! Would I do it again despite all the time and energy required to handle the logistics? You bet. Anything worth doing is worth doing well. The results spoke for themselves.

If you are looking for a guest speaker on Genealogy I recommend that you contact the North San Diego County Genealogical Society through the Carlsbad Library at: 760-434-2931.

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Artist ● Speaker ● Writer
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

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HAPPY NEW YEAR - 2011!

2010-12-31T22:44:00.002-08:00

Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G

As we wrap up the year 2010 I can honestly say “It was a great year of learning on many different levels for me. Most importantly, I learned not to second guess anyone or any situation. I learned that stress can bring on another bout with shingles, so I need to stay cool and not let anyone push my buttons! Hence, it’s important for me to avoid toxic people and stick with those who support me and who I enjoy supporting. Finally, I am aware that Life is not a dress rehearsal!

Yes, I’ve been procrastinating on writing the great American novel. I’ve been too busy being critical of my writing style and thinking I’m not enough to be taken more seriously. What rubbish and how demeaning these thoughts can be. Now, I’m willing to launch some metaphysical/self-help eBooks that I truly believe will benefit others.

In the New Year I intend to have more fun, stop being so critical of myself, enjoy all my writing efforts, and spend more time with my oil paints and canvases because those two wonderful talents help me get centered and stay in the NOW.

All my doctors gave me high marks for greatly improved health. Much as I wanted to deny it because I didn’t reach my goal of walking 1-2 miles daily, sans walker and oxygen by Christmas. But, at least I treated myself to a walker and get around my neighborhood with my little Shih-Tzu, Krissy, just fine. This Holiday Season we were both dressed in red. When folks stopped to chat with us, I told them to be careful because “The Redcoats are coming!” This brought out big laughs and comedic talent, even from total strangers.

I can honestly say that I will look back on 2010 with benevolence and gratitude for all the people who touched my life, who helped me without my asking for help, and who encouraged me to share my gifts with others. Since, even my doctors said my new addiction, Genealogy, is a great opportunity to keep the little grey cells active, I’ve also decided to write and conduct some workshops for seniors who need to learn the blessings of being active, and getting in touch with what truly excites them. There is so much I want to share, from the lessons I’ve learned from my own life, and now is the perfect time to do that.

May 2011 be a wonderful year for you, for our planet Earth, and especially for our armed forces, wherever they may be! May this New Year resonate with peace, love and happiness for all!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

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2010 - YEAR END REFLECTIONS!

2010-12-31T22:44:00.000-08:00

CUSTOMER SERVICE IS ALIVE AND WELL!

2010-12-07T14:36:00.000-08:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G

Gas stations are not exactly known for their outstanding customer service especially if you’re not a regular customer. Imagine, my surprise to find an exception. Driving down Hwy. 5 to a recent doctor’s appointment from Oceanside, CA I saw a red light flash on my dashboard panel – OIL!

H’m this could be truly dangerous if I overlooked it or waited until I got back to Oceanside from Encinitas. Much as I hated to stop at any gas station I didn’t normally patronize I knew I must. So I pulled into the first gas station I could see as I exited the freeway in Encinitas– O’Brien Station at 310 Encinitas Blvd., Encinitas.

We’ve all heard stories about little old ladies (and I’m 77) being sold the Brooklyn Bridge by unscrupulous folks and I was dreading they’d tell me I needed a new engine, main gasket, etc. I tried to hide my fears as I walked inside the gas station for help and my tale of woe. I was warmly greeted by one of the O’Brien brothers and told him I needed gas and someone to check my oil. His brother came out to help me fill up my tank after I handed over my credit card. There are two O’Brien brothers, Bo and Devon, both 6 footers and quite handsome. Whichever one served me was unaware that my walker and oxygen tank where strewn across my backseat. (I didn’t want to look like a total victim after all).

He filled my tank to the amount I suggested not a penny more and told me to drive around the back and either Tony or Edgar would help me. When I got to the back of the gas station I was surprised to see so many women customers, all ages, there. One was getting a smog inspection, another some engine work, and another was just leaving after some work was completed.

All the inside pits were taken up so I parked along the side wall. While waiting, one of the O’Brien brothers called through from the front of the station to ask me if I was being helped. I said “Yes, Edgar is going to take me next.” Tony was still busy with another woman customer.

Edgar heard my tale of woe and opened the hood, checked the oil and said I needed a quart of oil. I said “How much is that?” waiting for the other shoe to drop. He said about $5.00. Whereupon I promptly told him to put it in. While finishing this he checked my water and brake fluid. Then I asked him if my tires were low and he checked them and put air in all of them! I asked him how much his service would be and he said there was no charge whereupon I gave him a nice tip.

While Edgar was tending to my car, Tony came over to say hello and regaled me with stories of England and my home town, London. He travelled there for over 9 years with an electronics company and was once stranded at Heathrow airport on Christmas Eve and said that no planes could take off after midnight. Hence, he and some other travelers bused it over to a nearby pub and celebrated Christmas!

I went to the front of the station to pay my bill. The full amount was less than $20 for gas and the quart of oil was only $4.33. I just couldn’t believe my good fortune to receive such excellent and joyful service from a gas station I had never visited before.

You can bet I will return whenever I am in the area. I feel like I’ve found some new friends and would like everyone, especially women, to know about the O’Brien station crew. Do me a favor and try them and let me know how you were treated.

Yes, folks, customer service is alive and well at the O’Brien Gas Station!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

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‘TIS BETTER TO GIVE THAN RECEIVE!

2010-11-20T18:38:00.000-08:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG

We’ve probably all heard the old adage ‘Tis Better to Give Than to Receive.” But until we actually put it into practice they are probably just empty words. Sure, receiving is fun but the sense of well being, gratitude, and happiness you get from giving or helping others, especially those less fortunate than us, is truly phenomenal! It’s something you can’t put a price tag on, It’s a feeling of overwhelming joy!

This is a great time of year to put that old adage into practice! This Tuesday I had the opportunity to do just that. I planned and mapped out a route that took in three of my favorite recipients all located in Oceanside, California:

“Welcome Home Ministries” off Mission and Barnes Avenue. They help women coming out of jail to get back on their feet and re-entry into society again. Those women need just about everything because most only have the clothes they stand up in. I usually take gently worn suits, jackets, slacks, tops, shoes, handbags, they can use for further court appearances, or interviewing. But, this time I also had some Holiday and evening items. The Reverend Carmen Warner-Robbins heads this group. You can also call 760-439-6381 for more information.

Next stop was the San Diego Humane Society & SPCA located at 2905 San Luis Rey Road, (760) 757-4357. I had some worn, queen-size woolen blankets and some open dog food and biscuits. Unfortunately, they could not accept opened food but were very grateful for the blankets and thanked me profusely. As usual, before I left I toured the facilities. Tears rapidly filled my eyes as I went from cage to cage talking to these beautiful, sad and lost animals. If I could, I would take and board all of them because they are all God’s creatures. I know when my little Shih-Tzu, Krissy, passes on I will be back here to take a little one home with me.

My last stop was the new Oceanside El Corazon Senior Center just off Oceanside Blvd. (760) 435-5300. I had 25 books to donate to their Library. The gentleman who helped me told me to look around and see if there were any books I’d like to trade. Forty five minutes later I emerged with four wonderful books, a mystery thriller, a metaphysical book, an autobiography and a political expose. Wow, these were truly a win-win situation!

As the Holidays approach, I hope I’ve given you some ideas on how you can help others. The beauty is that you don’t have to go out and buy things from scratch and spend a lot of money. Rather, you can donate items you’ve already bought and had fun using. There are always people in the wings, less fortunate, who would love to have your second-hands.

As I finally drove home I was on a real natural high, the kind you can never get from medications. I smiled to myself and said, Shirley “Tis Better to Give Than to Receive!”

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

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FUN WITH GENEALOGY!

2010-11-16T10:10:00.000-08:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG

I must confess I have a new addiction – GENEALOGY! Last weekend I spent time at the Georgina Cole Library and the Carlsbad City Council Chambers in Carlsbad, California. Saturday included a 9 AM-3 PM seminar “Beginner & Refresher Genealogy Class “ presented by the North San Diego County Genealogical Society. Speakers included Margaret Reid and Marti Meiners. Topics included: Getting Started, Record Keeping, Census Records, Wills & Probate, Land Records By the end of the day I was hooked on genealogy!

What was even more amazing is that there was no fee or tuition for this seminar! Yet we had so much information given to us by experts, including brightly colored packages with pages of resources and references. There was only a small “donation” jar at the back of the room if we wanted to use it.

These dedicated women used a Power Point presentation of slides to give us even more information and examples of how to go about finding out who are ancestors were.. To say it was fascinating is an understatement.

On Sunday, we were graciously invited back to the Carlsbad Library by Margaret Read to learn how to access computer/on line databases/sites available to the general public to do further research. The entire upper floor of the library is dedicated to geneology: Books, CDs, computers, printers, reference desk, maps, etc. Perhaps the most exciting thing I discovered is that I can access all the databases at the Library with my Carlsbad library card, at no charge, from the comforts of my home! This saves multiple trips over to the library, wear and tear on my car and gasoline savings! It also means I can be at this 24/7. H’m, now is that addicting or not?

By the end of the weekend I joined the North San Diego County Genealogical Society for only $25.00 membership. I am also thinking of investigating The Daughters of the British Empire (DBE) since I was born in London, England. They are very active here in North County. If you are American born you might like to check out The Daughters of the American Revolution (DAR).

I hope I’ve spiked your interest to investigate your ancestors! For more information on all the classes, seminars, speakers etc. contact the Carlsbad City Library Genealogy Desk: 760-434- 2931, or www.carlsbadlibrary.org.

Happy Hunting

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

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LIFE IS VERY GOOD! ...

2010-10-30T20:33:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G

October certainly exceeded my expectations in learning new things, meeting new people, making new friends, collecting a horde of books at annual library book sales, and receiving many requests for either articles I've written or posted on my blogs from folks all over the USA. I am truly tickled to be alive at this time.

This week two important events happened: I decided to raise the handlebars on my walker to see if that made any difference in my walking and back pain. It sure did! I can't believe the positive impact it has had on my health. I feel so much better and my posture is more erect, instead of leaning forward when I walk. This simple action has also relieved the low back pain I felt 24/7, especially when going to bed at night. I would literally cry out in pain as I lowered myself onto the mattress. That has now all gone and I'm ecstatic! Now my goal is definitely to be rid of the dependence on the walker altogether. I've set a new goal to be independent of it by Christmas. Whether that's realistic or not we'll see...

The 2nd event was the disappearance of my little Shih-Tzu, Krissy. I came home from my Carlsbad Toastmaster Club Thursday night, after a brief stop at Ralph's to pick up some items, and opened my front door with my arms loaded about 9:30 PM. Krissy came bounding out as she usually does when I arrive home to greet me. I put the groceries away thinking she would come right back in. I called her but no Krissy. H'm. At 10 o'clock I put my oxygen tank on, got a flashlight and extra batteries, and started out with my walker to look for her. I slowly combed the neighborhood flashing the light under cars in driveways, etc. No luck. I left the front porch light on all night and put a bowl of water on the step in case she came back and I had fallen asleep.

At midnight I was besides myself with anguish and jumped in my car and drove all over the neighborhood again searching for her. Nothing! Trying to sleep was useless. At 4 AM I dressed warmly and got flashlight and walker and headed out again. It took me a little over an hour to comb my neighborhood and still no luck in finding Krissy. I prayed God would keep her safe from the coyotes that roam around here.

Returning home exhausted, I sat on my sofa and turned on the TV. The 5 AM news came on. I couldn't believe how cheerful the newscasters were. It was almost obscene to me because I'm usually in deep dreams at that hour. About 5:45 AM I heard a small patter at the front door. I jumped up and lo and behold there was Krissy! I forced myself not to be mad at her, scooped her up in my arms and was astounded to find out she was bone dry! Meanwhile, I was soaking wet from perspiration and the light drizzle in the early dawn. She looked none the worse for wear and gave me that look "well, now you're up why don't you feed me!" At that point I would have given the little bugger anything she wanted.

Early Friday morning I cancelled her grooming appointment because I was so exhausted. I have no idea where she went or, if she will try that again. But, I am pleased she knows her way home and will be much more careful when opening my front door in the future.

Until you lose something, or someone, you often don't know how much it means to you. I think of Krissy as the daughter I never had. She's my true family and companion. I feel so blessed that God sent her safely home to me. Now I won't take her for granted anymore! Be sure you let those close to you know how much you love them! You never know when it will be the last time that you see them.

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com http://www.angelscross.blogspot.comhttp://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

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INCREDIBLE GROWTH MONTH!

2010-09-30T23:57:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan

September has turned out to be a month of incredible personal growth and health challenge. I had wanted to post another Recap of one of my Toastmaster Club meetings that I write. It follows. I will also be sharing my new project with you that I am very excited about shorly. Meanwhile, enjoy the recap!

RECAP OF SEPTEMBER 9, 2010 MEETING

Our Pledge of Allegiance got started on time by a very dapper Sgt.@ Arms, Jonathan Enerva. It’s good to see Jonathan taking his new role so seriously.

Pat Rarus did double duty tonight in the absence of President, Pat Partin. She conducted the Business Meeting adroitly reminding us of the Humorous Area Speech Contest on Sunday at Watkins Manufacturing in Vista and Debra Simpson who will represent our Club. She also introduced our new Treasurer, one of our newest Toastmasters, Carol Sheckler. Congratulations Carol for stepping up to the plate! Pat Rarus was also the Toastmaster of the evening. We had two guests: Ginnie Donaldson, a very stylish and upbeat resident of Carlsbad by the Sea, and Josh Hartman. Also, it was good to see Darrell Fulmore again after a long absence!

Pat then introduced our Table Topics Master, Jonathan Enerva who chose “curriculum” as the word of the day. Jonathan had some truly fascinating and challenging questions tonight with stacks of books to back up his theme. Shirley Carolan won the trophy for Best Table Topics.

We had two very good speakers tonight: Carol Sheckler and Richard Rettig. Carol gave speech #10 from the basic manual: “Flowers Just Bloom.” She also gave us this poem as a handout which is something all can enjoy. Richard Rettig did a departure from his usual speeches by giving a speech from the Advanced Story Telling Manual : “A Gnome.” It was quite humorous and kept us on edge until the finale. Unfortunately, both our speakers ran overtime.

Cindy Parker was our General Evaluator and introduced our two evaluators: Shirley Carolan and Dan McKeon. Shirley evaluated Carol Sheckler’s speech giving her high marks for following all the objectives of her speech giving her some improvement tips and even complementing her when she forgot her lines. Dan McKeon did a very thorough and helpful evaluation of Richard’s speech. Shirley Carolan won the trophy for Best Evaluator.

We had several new Toastmasters as functionaries tonight. They all did an outstanding job in their respective roles. Scott Trulove gave a masterful report as Grammarian. Leo McFall manned the timing lights and Darrell Fulmore was our Ah Counter.

Ginnie bade us farewell early but Josh remained to give us high marks especially after visiting other Toastmaster clubs. Methinks we have a new member in the wings here!

Till next time,

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
VP-PR
Tick Talk Toastmasters

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

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THE JOYS OF TOASTMASTERING

2010-09-11T15:23:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G

One of the most important constants for me for the last 29 years has been my membership in Toastmasters International. I enjoy everything about Toastmasters and Toastmastering. It has brought me untold joy, confidence, poise, knowledge, education, the ability to think clearly and organize my words, both written and oral, to share my knowledge and mentor others, courage to compete in annual contests, lifelong friendships and of course a feeling of satisfaction, of a job well done. You might say it is my passion!

As a result of all of the above, I’d like to share with you what goes on at a Toastmasters’ meeting and perhaps encourage you to investigate a club either where you work or live. As the VP or Public Relatons for my Toastmaster Club, Tick Talk Toastmasters, I write weekly recaps of our meetings, i.e., who did what, who won what, etc. Hence, I’ll be posting recaps of our meeting regularly here, starting with the Labor Day weekend. .

RECAP OF SEPTEMBER 2, 2010 MEETING

On the cusp of the Labor Day weekend we had a full house last night. In fact, I’m still jazzed by it. We had 4 guests: Gail Dillon made a return visit, Bob Parsons, aspiring actor Austin Auger, and our new Area 18 Governor, Henry Heller. Also, Ana Santiago visited us again and was our Grammarian. Welcome all. The theme of the meeting was “Labor Day Weekend.”

President Pat Partin conducted a brief business meeting and installed 3 new members into Tick Talk Toastmasters: Carol Shekler, Leo McFall, and Scott Trulove. Congratulations all!

Richard Rettig was our Table Topics Master. He asked some very thoughtful and provocative questions. He chose “Toil” as the word of the day. It was great to see all of our guests participate. Area Governor, Henry Heller won the trophy for Best Table Topics. Good job, Henry!

Pat Partin was our Toastmaster of the evening. She introduced our lone speaker, Bobby Van Hollebeke giving speech #3 from the basic manual. Bobby gave an enthusiastic account of his beloved Padres, told us about their humanitarian contributions to society and stressed that we should support them.

Shirley Carolan was our General Evaluator and introduced our lone evaluator, Andrea Patterson, who evaluated Bobby’s speech. She praised Andrea for the many Toastmaster roles she has undertaken recently.

Shirley gave us high marks for our meeting tonight stressing that we did “jolly good!” She mentioned that when you are the Table Topics Master to be sure the “word of the day” is large enough and dark enough for those in the back of the room to see it. Also, she suggested moving the flip chart out of the way when Table Topics are completed. She did not participate in Table Topics but she did mention that the word “Toil” was used by English Prime Minister Winston Churchill during WWII when he said “I have nothing to offer you but blood, sweat, toil, and tears!” She was a school girl in London at the time.

Stepping up to the plate as our Timer was newcomer, Scott Trulove. Well done, Scott. Jonathan Enerva was our Ah Counter and Ana Santiago was our Grammarian!

After Pat Partin distributed the Best Speaker, Evaluator and Table Topics awards she called on guests for their comments on our meeting. We got good reviews from all of them. Our new Area 18 Governor, Henry Heller, reminded us to attend the Area Contest on September 12 at Watkins Manufacturing and asked for volunteers. Please check the time of this contest as I got it wrong in my last recap!

Lastly, Pat Partin called on Ronnie Bierner for some light hearted humor to cap our holiday meeting. Ronnie reluctantly demurred to Shirley Carolan who told us about a king and a fairy tale… Aw, shucks.

Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G
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SHINGLES REVISTED!

2010-08-30T16:31:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G

It’s hard to believe that a year has passed since I first broke out in Shingles blisters. But that is so. I’ve since had many opportunities to regret my cavalier attitude when my doctor first asked me, at the beginning of 2009, if I’d like to have a Shingles vaccination and I immediately said No! without asking what Shingles is and how severe can it be.

Shingles is not something to mess with! I am still suffering from some symptoms of it to this day! Sometimes the itch is so unbearable that I just scratch myself to pieces, at times even drawing blood. Sometimes the pain is unbearable … My doctor has prescribed 3 different salves, all to no avail.

But, I’ve come a long way in this past year. I look back and remember that if something dropped to the floor, even a pencil, I was unable to bend down and pick it up, so covered in blisters was my waist…Even daily setting down my Shih-Tzu’s food and water dishes was painful. Today, I can at least bend down and retrieve almost anything from the floor. I can do small gardening jobs. Why I can even vacuum, or mop, the house!

I tell myself that it could be worse. I could be in an assisted living place with limited mobility and immediately I am grateful for what health I do have. And when I get really down I take out the photos from a year ago and look at the terrible mess I was in. When I see all down my back and across my waist to the middle of my chest, the horrible blisters I can appreciate why my doctor told me I had one of the worst cases of Shingles she had ever seen!

It is my fervent hope that by sharing my ordeal with you, particularly if you are over 55, or, your know of someone who is, that you will urge them to get the Shingles vaccination! You, or they, will be so glad you did. To live in daily pain, or itch, is very debilitating and depressing. It can rob you of energy and living a normal life. Why take that chance. Life is too precious and much too short!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
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Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
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THERAPEUTIC GARDENING!

2010-07-29T15:54:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G

This summer, I am finally getting back to enjoying my garden as well as light pruning of bushes and small trees. So different from last year when I couldn’t move or do anything without oxygen. I feel truly blessed to be able to be outdoors admiring nature. I do have a handyman do the heavy work, plus picking up the branches and leaves, which I can’t do yet.

Gardening, for me, is truly therapeutic. I had not realized how much I missed it. Unlike my mother who hated gardening, which I could never understand all the years I lived in an apartment.

I repotted several small plants on the outdoor windowsill of my living room, and the white wicker table on the patio. The reds, pinks, yellows are just gorgeous! I even tended my palm trees and fed them.

It’s also amazing that while indulging in this small pleasure the number of ideas that have flittered through my mind for articles, or chapters for my book “It Ain’t Over Till It’s Over!” It’s like getting a bonus for something I enjoy doing anyway! Maybe working with one’s hands has its own rewards? When I feel I’ve had enough, I’ll take a short rest and then go back to my computer and crank out drafts of things that came to me while gardening. I’m never disappointed. Sometimes it may be some questions to ask when next I am the Table Topics Master at my Toastmaster Club.

If you don’t have a garden, don’t fret, houseplants, which I have all over my house, are also fun to work with, talk to and enjoy. I love all the different styles of pots my plants are in and get enormous satisfaction knowing I can redecorate with them.

Now, if only I could get off this oxygen full time! I'm working on it!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
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Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
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CARLSBAD PSYCHIC FAIRE

2010-07-13T10:12:00.000-07:00

by Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G

Yesterday, I visited the Windmill and the Carlsbad ”Holistic Living Expo” affectionately known as the Psychic Faire and had a marvelous time and learned a lot. I went to 3 free mini seminars: The Yuen Method of Energy Healing (later had a free healing) by the Rev. Marcella Jones; Palmistry-the Ancient Art and Science of Hand Analysis, by Kathlleen Robertson, CLC and, Esoteric Numerology, by Merry Street,which I'm very much into. I learned to include your middle name when using numerology, which I had not done before and which changed my personality, heart, and expression numbers.

I also bought 2 books: "10 Secrets for Success and Inner Peace" by Dr. Wayne Dyer, and "The Birth, Life, Ministry, Ascension and Coronation of Mary, Mother of Jesus" which I've not been able to put down, it's so fascinating and I have a much different concept of who she was and is!

This time, instead of gem stones I bought several scarabs, one made from limestone which the Pyramids are made from. I probably will add some to some jewelry that I design.

As I glanced at my watch I saw it was after 5 PM and I knew I had to get home to my litle Shih-Tzu. Hence, there was no time for a private reading from Kathleen Robertson on Hand Analysis, nor Merry Street on Esoteric Numerology. So this is unfinished business in my life which I will pursue. Kathleen is from LA and her website is: www.TheHandAnalyst.com. Merry is from San Diego and her website is: www.MerryStreet.com. Both have ongoing workshops and events.

Don’t feel badly if you missed the Carlsbad exhibit because the Holistic Fair will be in Newport Beach and San Diego in August. For more information about this wonderful event, people, and services please go to: HolisticLivingExpo.com and you may even download a free admission pass.

There was so much to see and learn that I did not have time for it all. So, I’ve made a promise to myself to henceforth start out earlier in the day and just enjoy everything. Hope to see you at the next Expo!

Cheers!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer●Speaker●Artist
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WORDS, WORDS AND MORE WORDS!

2010-06-29T13:09:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G

This year is certainly flying by with summer now upon us. As many of you know I am passionate about words – both spoken and written. I even coined the phrase “Words are the poetry of the soul. They are as unique as your fingerprints You owe it to yourself to leave the finest imprint™”.

With that said, I don’t think I’m any closer to writing the great American novel! Maybe that’s because I write non-fiction pieces and have not researched potential markets for some of my material. Or, maybe it’s because the month of June saw me reading avidly, at least two books a week. You might say that’s not a lot but I truly devour words as I read chapter after chapter.. When I get to the end of the book I ask myself would I have ended it that way? Most of the time I have to say NO! And then, I torment myself with how I would end the book.

I think to be a good writer you have to also be a good reader. There are so many authors out there and so many different styles. Characters are also very important to me, including their names. If I can’t associate the name with the character, or the character’s deeds, words, thoughts, then I get frustrated. But that’s fairly rare, whether I read a murder mystery, autobiography, political and religious intrigue/scandals, historical novel, etc..

If the story has truly resonated with me then I like to contact the author, either through their website, publisher, or snail mail and tell them how much I enjoyed their book and ask them if they have another one in the works and when it will be published. Some authors only want to be contacted through their publisher and that’s OK too. But, I do get a thrill when I can contact the author direct and write/ask some questions that may have come up for me when reading the book and they, goodnaturedly, respond.

Once I’ve finished a book I ask friends if they’d like to have it, if not, I put them in a box and haul them off to the local senior center. The senior center is always happy to receive them. Last week I took 15 books to the new senior center in Oceanside, CA. It felt good to recycle something I’ve enjoyed and had a lot of fun hours with..

Local libraries and thrift shops are also a good source to recycle your books. I even buy books from these places and the cycle continues. It helps me to also get rid of some of the clutter even though I have plenty of books and shelves that might say otherwise..

I hope this will encourage you to pass your books along. Meanwhile, keeping up with all my books helps me to think about and write the great American novel!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
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Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
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TOASTMASTERS STRUT THEIR STUFF at LEGOLAND

2010-05-24T18:15:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G

Last week I had the privilege of conducting a workshop with two fellow Toastmasters from my club at LegoLand. Following is the report I wrote.

Recently, Tick Talk Toastmaster Club 2113, Carlsbad, CA was contacted by LegoLand to see if they would be interested in conducting a brief presentation on the “Art of Public Speaking” to tsome of their management team. They specifically wanted to know the components of putting together a good speech and the fine points of delivery. They were also interested in how and when to use audio/visual aids effectively.

Three advanced Toastmasters rallied to the occasion: Marc Weyl, who handled the audio/visual portion; Shirley Carolan, who spoke on the importance of good organization and “Substance, Style and Staging;” and, Pat Rarus, who spoke on “How to Use Humor” effectively, and appropriate grammar and word usage! A question and answer session followed each presentation.

If “a picture is worth a thousand words” then Marc Weyl did an outstanding job of designing his slides and using a laptop computer to convey the latest in technology and how to use it effectively.

Shirley Carolan, a freelance writer, well-known for her English accent, captivated the audience with vocal variety, gestures, and enthusiasm.

Pat Rarus, a marketing professional and former English teacher, showed her talent with words, grammar and lively humor.

Thus, each Toastmaster brought something unique to the overall presentation, complementing each other and Tick Talk Toastmasters! They stressed the importance of Toastmasters in their personal and professional lives, what growth they’ve experienced and risks taken as a result of their Toastmaster membership. Pat Rarus gave an overview of what Toastmasters is all about and Shirley Carolan held up “The TOASTMASTER” magazine, highlighting the additional benefits of membership.

All agreed that this was a win-win presentation. LegoLand got to hear presentations from some top-notch Toastmasters, and Tick Talk Toastmasters got a bold opportunity to promote their Club. While this was the first time Toastmasters joined forces to give their all to promoting their Club and increase membership, it certainly won’t be the last!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
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A TOASTMASTER’S BIRTHDAY!

2010-05-21T19:07:00.000-07:00

by Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G

It’s not always possible to spend our birthday with our family. So, the next best thing is to spend it with supportive friends. I feel so blessed to have the friends I do both within and outside Toastmasters International.

Thursday was my birthday and it started with a bang! I opened my front door to walk my little Shih-Tzu and there was this beautiful card from a neighbor wishing me well. As I returned home, another neighbor dropped by with a lovely gift with writing on the outside of the bag “Fabulous You!” Besides the lovely gift was the smallest birthday cake I’d ever seen with a beautiful gold bow flowing from it!

Later, a Toastmaster friend dropped by with a Happy Birthday balloon and a super card. Since Thursday night is my regular Toastmaster Club meeting night, in Carlsbad, CA and I was the Table Topics Master for the evening, I knew I would be with great company to celebrate this birthday.

At the intermission they wheeled out this magnificent, iced, birthday cake! They presented it to me with a birthday card signed by everyone! Who could ask for more? Well, would you believe they insisted I take home the small piece that was left. I didn’t have to be asked twice.

Throughout the evening, various dignitaries mentioned some tidbits they’d found out about me to share with the audience, through my blogs and website! I was tickled. It felt like a jolly good roasting!

Yes, this was one undeniably special birthday shared with some very special people and friends. Here’s to many more!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
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THE TOASTMASTER MAGAZINE

2010-04-30T13:39:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G

This may sound like a pitch for Toastmasters International and that’s OK with me. I’ve been a member of this prestigious organization since 1981, having joined in the San Francisco Bay Area. Folks, that’s 29 years of wonderful association and it has been one of two constants in my life since that time. It has been both a lifesaver and a catalyst for personal and professional growth!

Today, instead of just promoting this organization I’d like to express my deep gratitude for its wonderful, glossy, informative magazine. I believe this magazine is the unsung hero of our membership even today! I think Forbes, Smithsonian, Entrepreneur would envy its world-wide distribution and readership.

But don’t just take my word for it. Please visit the Toastmaster’s International HQ in Rancho Santa Margarita. Guided tours are available daily from 9-4 PM. More information is available at: www.toastmaster.org. or (949-858-8255). When I took my family for a visit they were amazed at the plethora of information and help there. I was both overjoyed and overcome when I saw our beautiful glossy magazine neatly stacked for shipment to countries all over the world, (106 countries to be exact) in Spanish, French, English, German, Italian, Japanese! It was an awesome sight and I felt proud to be associated not only with a wonderful organization, but also this wonderful magazine.

Whether you aspire to become a professional speaker, or are a manager, supervising others, in sales or marketing, “The Toastmaster” magazine has worthy information in each issue that will benefit your professional and personal life! It keeps up with the latest in technology, trends, and language.

Members seem to take this magazine for granted but if you can get your hands on a copy of one you will appreciate and understand why I feel so strongly and positively about it. In fact, you will be glad you did!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
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LIONS CLUB SPEECH CONTEST

2010-03-25T12:10:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G

It’s that time of year when Toastmasters International and various civic organizations are having their annual spring speech contests. It’s a great opportunity to hear some of the finest speakers around.

I particularly enjoy being asked to participate in the civic organizations as a judge for the young men and women competing at the various levels for scholarships and recognition. I feel a great sense of pride when I hear these teenagers meticulo sly explain their position on matters of vital interest to the public.

March 14, 2010 was no exception as I participated as a judge at the Lions Zone Level of competition. The subject was "Healthcare, How Will it Affect Us?" It was so apropos in view of the recent healthcare package just signed by President Obama. Each candidate did a thorough job of researching and reviewing voluminous material, pro and con, and presented that information to the audience with grace and aplomb! It was hard to believe they were teenagers and not seasoned politicians in their delivery and content!

There were three competitors: Emily Gilden, Vista, Gavin Curtis, Carlsbad and Yujia Pan, Carlsbad. It was a very tough and tight competition. Yujia Pan was declared the winner and was presented with a $100.00 check for her efforts.

Yujia will now compete at the Lions Regional Contest on April 11, 2010 at the Ed Brown Senior Center in Rancho Bernardo (18402 W. Bernardo Drive)starting at 1:30 PM. If you qualify as a judge, or, want more information regarding the Contests, please contact: Sandy Mangini at (760) 436-7338, or sandysseabluff@cox.net, or Victor Gonzalez, Region Chair at (858)673-1974..

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
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http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

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THE ELEPHANT IN THE ROOM!

2010-03-07T11:05:00.000-08:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G

How many times have you been told by a well meaning friend, spouse, neighbor, teacher, doctor, minister, etc. to remember that there’s an elephant in the room? What never? For example, maybe you have said to someone “I feel tired all the time,” or, “I’m going to go on a diet and lose some weight,” or, “I’m going to start walking 2 miles a day,” only to have that person tell you something negative that you’re forgetting about, or reminding you of some limitation that makes it impossible for you to achieve that dream?

Personally, I am sick and tired of doctors reminding me of my AGE! Or, being told that my AGE is to blame for such and such. In other words, AGE is the “elephant in the room!” What rubbish! I may be a senior citizen but if I truly believed that I might as well order my coffin now!

Recently, I told two medical specialists that I’m tired of living at only two speeds: no energy, and low energy. I want to get back physically to walking 2 miles a day without oxygen and without a walker, where I was a year ago before coming down with complications from pneumonia.. One doctor said “Well, that ain’t going to happen!” The other said “Well, you’ve got to remember the elephant in the room!” When I asked him what that was he said “Your AGE!” What a cop out! What rubbish!

I have friends my age and older who play tennis, go sailing, hike, etc. enjoying life and without giving a thought to their age. .You’re as old or as young as you feel! AGE is not the problem when you constantly fall down, lose your balance and break bones, as I have done. The elephant in the room for me has been leading a sedentary life style and not by choice! It’s hard to exercise or run around the block when you feel tired all the time.. It’s obvious that weak muscles are the culprit, not AGE! When you sit all day, whether reading, at your computer, or watching television, your muscles are not being used! Hence, they can atrophy! When you walk, get out of a car, go upstairs, etc. you are using muscles!

I’m doing a lot of research about balance and weak muscles and how to improve both. The world wide web is loaded with information on these subjects. I’m also taking a FREE 6 day Ecourse, with exercises to improve my balance and use my muscles. The course is designed by Mike Ross, along with videos and exercises you can do immediately. Check it out at: www.thebalancemanual.com/ecourse.html. Mike is an exercise physiologist who specializes in senior health and fitness. He has a degree in Fitness Management and is certified by the National Academy of Sports Medicine.

Also, I’m thinking of starting a support group for folks who have trouble with their balance and constantly fall down. While older folks are more likely to respond, it is not limited to them because some younger folks also have balance problems. More on this later.

Lastly, I urge you not to give your power away to AGE, or well meaning folks, or doctors who tell you to “remember the elephant in the room!” That’s their opinion. Thank you very much. What’s yours?

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer●Speaker●Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
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NEW MANTRAS TO LIVE BY

2010-02-24T15:09:00.000-08:00

by Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G

Don’t know if I’m waxing philosophical as I age but through some unlikely and unsolicited sources I came across some sentences whose meanings literally resonated with me. Words are so powerful; they conjure up a variety of emotions and moods. Hence, it’s wonderful when bon mots cause you to stop and think about how you are living your life and if that’s in accord with your master plan.

I want to share these wonderful words with you now because they may spur you on to do a quick analysis of your life today and see if It is in sync with your vision.

The first came from Maria Mar’s newsletter, see www.catchthedreamexpress.com/newsletter/february2010.htm and was part of some promo material for Ted Karam’s new book “Jumping on Water:” ‘Do not give your power away to your circumstances.’ It stopped me dead in my tracks as I reflected on how disappointed and angry I’ve been at myself for not being able to recover my health quicker. However, I had no idea how debilitating shingles can be. My doctor told me it had to do with the “elephant in the room!” When I asked him what that was he said “Well, you’ve got to remember you’re not 24 any more. It takes longer for older folks to recover.” H’m, that surely didn’t apply to me did it?

I never think of my age as a detriment to anything! But, I had wasted an inordinate amount of time and energy bemoaning my poor health. And, sometimes I was aware of that and other times not. I had to admit finally that I had “given my power away (many times) to my circumstances” and that had to stop. I’m not an invalid after all!

On the bright side, however, I congratulated myself for buying a 4-wheel walker, with folding seat, lightweight and extremely serviceable, on January 29, 2010. This may not seem like a big deal to some, but for me it’s better than buying a new car! I was shopping at my favorite Thrift Shop and spotted it. I decided to take a stroll with it around the store. I was amazed at how much more territory I covered without the usual huffing and puffing when I used the cane. H’m. Next, I thought about shopping in the supermarket and how I get around so well with the shopping cart to help me keep my balance and keep moving. I also purchased a nice basket that attaches to the walker and holds my oxygen tank.

Then I knew, I had to buy the walker! I said to myself this could mean more freedom for me. Right now I can’t even walk my dog a block with my cane without huffing and puffing and having to return home. Even Krissy, my little Shih-Tzu, enjoys a ride on the seat the last block before arriving home. As of today, I’m excited to be walking all around my neighborhood. I am up to walking a mile a day with my walker and without the oxygen tank! My short term goal is to walk 2 miles a day with the walker, and, without any oxygen. My long term goal is to walk 2 miles daily, as I did before, eventually without the walker or oxygen!

The beauty is that I bought this walker for a song and it’s given me a new lease on life and new found freedom! I can’t help wondering though if the doctors had advised me last year, when I first got out of the hospital to buy a walker would I have done so? Methinks not. Regardless, I am now a master of my destiny instead of a victim of my history!

The other bon mots I feel worth sharing with you came in an email from a friend with a cartoon. Unfortunately, I am unable to upload the cartoon. Here it is: “Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass. It’s about learning to dance in the rain!” Isn’t that beautiful! I was absolutely tickled by it. It conjured up memories of Gene Kelley in the movie “Dancing in the Rain.” Regardless of what’s going on in life at any moment, if we can learn to “dance in the rain,” I think we stand a good chance of surviving the worst case scenario. It’s truly worth thinking about.

As you’ve probably guessed, I’ve blown up both these wonderful sayings and have posted them near my computer, in my bathroom, bedroom, kitchen, etc. I feel they are great new mantras to live by. Do let me know what you think!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
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ANNIVERSARY REFLECTIONS

2010-02-20T20:49:00.000-08:00

by Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G

I’m fast coming up on the anniversary of my bout with pneumonia which escalated into complications and an emergency trip to Scripps Memorial Hospital in Encinitas, where I remained for 10 days.

Hard to believe a year has almost passed and my life has changed so much. Prior to this my health was never a problem. I thought I was invincible! After all I’d done four (4) Firewalks with Tony Robbins in the late ‘80’s and early ‘90’s and had a lot of tools to work with. Still taking risks in my mid ‘60s and moving from my beloved San Francisco to North San Diego county, sight unseen, no job, and no friends yet.

But, I knew I had a multitude of skills to fall back on. The only problem was I hated marketing myself and I took to using my office/administrative skills, landing me back in the “secretarial ghetto” which I’d struggled most my life to escape! When folks asked me what I could do, I’d proudly announce that I could and have done everything but dig ditches! Yes, I could paper the wall with all the State licenses, certificates, diplomas and education I’d worked so hard to achieve. But, something was always missing… I think I’ve got a handle on that now.

I’ve reinforced some positive beliefs about what my life is about today and I’ve let go of the anger, resentments and disappointments of bygone days replacing them with gratitude and forgiveness, particularly of myself! My mother used to tell me as a child growing up in England “how much she and Dad had sacrificed to give me the finest education money can buy.” I no longer have to feel or prove that I am worthy of something I could never repay, no matter how hard I tried...

This past year has been quite a learning curve since I am still somewhat limited in my physical activities. And, coming down with Shingles last August which still affects me, was the icing on the cake. Patience was never my strong suit but I’ve had multiple lessons this past year to get on top of that, including another emergency visit to Scripps Memorial Hospital last month.

Today, I don’t take myself, or any of my possessions, so seriously that I can’t enjoy what’s going on in my life on a daily basis! Now, that’s progress, at least for me! Now I can work on some other bad habits that only I can change. Even if I have to wait awhile for some lesson to surface, I’m ready for the challenge!

Bon jour!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer●Speaker●Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2010 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you

STRESS/COMPUTERS & TECHNOLOGY

2010-01-20T13:21:00.000-08:00

By Shirley M. Carolan

Recently, I discovered how much a slave I’ve been to the Internet, emails, and on-going newsletters and classes covering a variety of subjects. I also pay all my bills on line, and totally forgot how I used to pay my bills before on-line banking became available.

That’s the technology side of it. I’ve also been a slave to my computer as well. It seems my whole life was wrapped around my computer and the latest technology although I doubt I would ever admit that.

Two weeks ago I experienced a warning sign on the computer screen telling me I had been infected with a Trojan horse by a computer company called “Personal Security.” Since I was on-line at the time I chose to call my ISP to see if they could help me… Maybe not the smartest move but I’d just found out that my 2-year extended warranty with HP had expired when I thought it was good until November 2010! But that’s another stressful story.

Meanwhile, it was the beginning of a two week ordeal whereby I spent hundreds of dollars, wasted hours, daily waiting for various technical support people to help me. Every time I thought I had the problem solved something else would go wrong necessitating more expense, time, and waiting. MY ISP finally recommended I get a “recovery disk” from Microsoft, since I had not backed up my new laptop when I received it as my Christmas gift to myself December 07. I opted to have them send it Fed Ex wracking up still more expense.

Then the modem broke down and AT&T informed me they would replace it but I would incur fees, plus shipping and handling. It would take another 4-5 days before I would have the new modem…

On the 5th day of this saga, I found I had trouble breathing. I called my doctor and was told to immediately go to Scripps Memorial Hospital Emergency Room, in Encinitas, CA where I spent the rest of the day, until late evening, hooked up to oxygen and IV tubes. After x-rays, EKGs and blood work I got to meet Dr. Pheifer. Bottom line: he thought the shallow breathing was a result of stress, gave me a prescription for steroids, and told me to see a pulmonary specialist immediately. Mercifully, this time I was not admitted to the hospital and couldn’t wait to get home to my little Shih-Tzu who was now at home in the dark...

It would take another week before all the problems were fixed. I decided to take my laptop to Computer Geeks to have them assess the problem. Four days later I had my computer back. There was no Trojan horse, virus, etc. just a defective boot up to Windows. I was now ready to hook up the new modem to it.

I finally did hear back from the technical support people I had contacted and paid upfront to have them fix the problem. One of them even offered to refund the $139.99 they had charged me because I was never able to get through to them. Also, I had decided to remove Norton software from my computer and go with McAfee and start afresh. It took some doing and I was apprehensive about using a different software, having been with Norton for over 25 years! But, I knew I couldn’t handle more complications and delays.

AT&T did stay in touch with me, even though there were many times I could not get through to their Tech Support. I explained that the stress had caused me a health problem necessitating a visit to a hospital emergency room. They were most understanding and sympathetic. They even waived the $100 fee for the new modem, charging only shipping and handling, and told me to call them immediately I received it and they would walk me through the installation. I was grateful for their follow up and quick action because I was seriously considering a new ISP too.

The moral of this saga is: I finally admitted to myself that I am a survivor! I had survived the “Battle of Britain” having been bombed out of London during 1940. Now my mantra is “Unless something is a life threatening event, I am not going to let it put me in the hospital! Particularly if it’s a piece of equipment!” Nothing, but nothing is worth losing my health over.

Funnily, I don’t rush to the computer several times a day to check my emails any more. If I check them just once a day and that’s enough! I’ve also dropped several on-line newsletters and websites. It’s amazing the peace of mind I’m discovering by taking my life and my power back! I am no longer a slave to a piece of equipment that used to run my life!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2010 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you.

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XMAS DRAMA

2009-12-28T15:40:00.000-08:00

By Shirley Carolan

The Christmas holidays can be a stressful time for some people and this year I certainly felt the stress... Imagine Christmas Day answering a knock on your front door by two youthful looking police officers. But, I’m getting ahead of my story.

Actually, I’ve delayed writing about this because I felt embarrassed and then a bit ridiculous that these two policemen were seriously checking up on me when I’m sure they had more important things to do.

Two days before Christmas, December 23rd to be exact, I fell out of bed that morning, hit my head on a dresser and took a good punch in the left cheek from the edge of the dresser as I felt myself in slow motion going down for the count. Utterly dazed, and quite scared, I gradually pulled myself up, not an easy thing to do considering I have a pin in my right shoulder holding it together.

Was anything broken? Judging from the pain I wouldn’t be surprised. I hotfooted it to the bathroom to take a look at my face. From my left cheek to the jaw line was the beginning of a huge black and blue bruise. My heading was pounding as though I had a concussion. My right elbow had the beginnings of a huge bruise, and my left kneecap was bleeding and quite raw… It was obvious I’d done myself a mischief!

Once back on my feet, I blithely carried on as best I could reminding myself that the year would soon be over and hopefully all the illnesses would be behind me. At least I felt optimistic that this would be so.

On the Monday before Christmas, Dec. 23rd, I received a lovely gift from my twin brother and his family, which Fed Ex had been kind enough to leave at my door. It was from “The Fruit Company.” I immediately got off an email to thank them. Alas, unbeknownst to me, they never got the email!

Christmas Eve I ran out of eggnog and decided to hightail it to Ralph’s to get some more since they would be closed on Christmas Day. I also decided it might be the last time to take photos of some of the beautiful house decorations in my neighborhood since some folks take down their decorations early. So, I packed my Shih-Tzu in the car and with my digital camera took some photos as I circled my neighborhood, All told, I was probably gone less than an hour.

During this time, my answering machine took two phone messages: my nephew had called me from Newport Beach to wish me a Merry Christmas and half an hour later my twin brother called ditto. I was totally oblivious to this. Instead, I came home to enjoy my eggnog!. It was a little after 9 PM. Maybe you’re the kind who checks for messages frequently but I am not so I was to learn an important lesson.

Christmas Day I awoke to beautiful sunshine and took Krissy, my little Shih-Tzu, for her early morning walk. As I got to my front door I said to myself “I’d better check my phone messages and than get on with my day.” Lo and behold I saw the red light flashing indicating their were phone messages. I played them back for the first time. My brother sternly informed me that since they had not heard from me he felt he had no recourse but to ask the local police station if they would please check up on me to make sure I was OK.

Quickly, I got on my computer and emailed him that would not be necessary and I resent the email from December 21 to him. I am grateful that I’ve learned to keep copies of all my emails to my family…just in case. I thought that would be the end of it.

Then I heard the knocking on my front door. Everybody seems to miss the fact that I do have a chimer. Nevertheless, the policeman said to me “I guess you know why we’re here?” I nodded my head and told him what had happened. Then I noticed I’d left my dog’s leash on the outdoor rattan chair and my house key was still in the lock. And, of course I looked a dreadful sight with all my black and blue bruises. I couldn’t imagine what the police must have thought…perhaps some ol’ gal on the border of dementia? It was a comedie francais!

My brother never received my Monday email thanking him for the gift and I was unaware that I had two phone calls from them the night before while I was out shopping for eggnog! I apologized profusely and thanked the police for their courtesy. I even asked them if they’d like a copy of the resent email to my brother...

I guess the moral of the story is to always check to see if you have any messages from anyone especially if you have left your home however briefly!

Till next year, Happy Holidays everyone!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2009 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you.

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THANKSGIVING …

2009-11-28T20:24:00.000-08:00

By Shirley M. Carolan

November has got to be one of my favorite times of the year. We are so blessed here in Southern California to have great weather – usually sunshine, making it possible and inviting to visit the wonderful Pacific Ocean and stroll along the beach dressed in summer duds. I’ve forgotten what it was like to live in cold New York all those years.

It’s interesting how different climates celebrate holidays differently. I used to look forward to watching the Macy’s Day Parade, rain or shine, but now, I can enjoy it on television from miles away and then head for the beach .,,

This year I have much to be thankful for, I’ve gained new friends, survived 10 days in hospital with pneumonia and now am healing from shingles. Gradually my health has improved. I’ve just started physical therapy twice weekly through the end of January to help rebuild strength in my muscles, back, stomach, legs, so that I can learn to walk upright instead of hunched forward parallel with the sidewalk. Eventually, I expect to be able to walk 2-4 miles a day again!

This Thanksgiving I spent with a special friend who took me to many doctors appointments when I could not drive. It was very festive, beautifully decorated and welcoming. I was even told to bring my little Shih-Tzu, Krissy with me. This meant the world to me. When it was time to come home she packed me up with enough goodies to last a week.

November is also a special time to take advantage of the many bargains in Dept. stores, etc. I never thought I would succumb to this folly but when I saw that “Michael Brothers” was having terrific art sales, on just about everything in the store I couldn’t resist. My eyes spotted a wood box table easel for $79.99 on sale for $29.99 and if you purchased it before 12 noon on Friday, there was a coupon for 25% off your entire purchase, making this wonderful easel only $22.50! What a steal!! I couldn’t resist and could hardly wait for morning to arrive. Of course, once in the store there were other art supplies I thought I needed and with that precious 25% off the total purchase price who could resist?

I came proudly home with my purchases and immediately set up my new easel and started painting in earnest. I painted for two hours before I realized how tired I was. Today, I’m paying the price for all that activity but it was well worth the “stretch.”

During my illnesses this year I’ve missed my oil painting lessons, visits to galleries, whimsical assignments and of course, my classmates. I couldn’t even hold a brush to a canvas I was so weak or in pain when I did. But, lately I’ve started to finish canvases from bygone days and it’s been a blessing as well as very therapeutic!

My other favorite activity is public speaking and my Toastmaster Club. I rejoined it two weeks ago and I am thrilled to be a part of this vital organization again! It keeps me on my toes mentally and I love the interaction with other members! I think I’ll post the recap of our last meeting next.

Before I forget, Thanksgiving Day has special significance for my family and I. On November 27, 1947 my father, mother, twin brother and I boarded the SS AMERICA at Southampton, England and emigrated to the United States. It was Thanksgiving Day that year! Wow, that was 62 years ago!

HAPPY THANKSGIVING everybody!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Speaker ● Writer ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

PSYCHIC FAIRE - CARLSBAD

2009-10-26T14:46:00.000-07:00

by Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G

Last weekend the Psychic & Holistic Living Expo opened in Carlsbad. If you missed it you missed a wonderful opportunity to learn, interact and buy from many vendors displaying gem stones, jewelry, geodes, clothing, also psychic readings, aura photos, singing crystal bowls, several healing modalities, mini-seminars on many topics where questions were invited, etc. But, don’t worry it will come again next spring to Carlsbad.

I spent the afternoon there and had a fabulous time! I bought three semi-precious stones, two books, had a psychic reading, and an energy healing!! That’s a lot of mischief for one afternoon. Also, I met some old friends there too.

It was a smaller Fair with new vendors. The young couple I bought the gemstones from are from London, England (Hampstead) the same area of London as me!! Jeremy heard me talking about shingles and checked his book and suggested a stone, Fluorite, noted for its powers to help heal infections, cells, bones, DNA damage, etc. which I bought. This wonderful stone is also effective against computer and electromagnetic stress.

Next, I bought some Labradorite, a stone of transformation. Lastly, I bought a piece of Selenite – it cleans/clears stones, negative energy, and stimulates physical healing, etc. It will also clean my entire collection of stones, especially of any negative energies. Since I am out of sage sprigs Selenite will be a great substitute to use! You can find out more by going to www.energygems.com . I wanted to spend more time at this booth but the Faire had so much to see and hear that I finally bid a fond adieu.

There a many folks giving different psychic readings at these fairs but I’ve always thought the energy from so many attendees could affect the reading. But this Sunday, the noise level and shoppers seemed much more subdued. Hence, on stopping at a booth in a great location I decided to bite the bullet and treat myself to a reading by Angela, The reading was most interesting and it will be a pleasure to see what manifests! What I liked about Angela is that she does not go by the clock, (as so many psychics do) rather she takes her time, asks questions, and is very easy to talk to. Angela’s website is being revamped but she can be reached at: (949) 350-5369.

Interestingly, she said Jakey (my little Pug/Terrier) was my husband in another lifetime. Perhaps that’s why I wrote a book about him and all the lessons in life that he taught me. Today marks the 7th anniversary of his passing.

Next, I had a wonderful Chinese Yuen healing session with the Rev. Marcella Jones. She is a certified Yuen practitioner of the Yuen Method of Chinese Energetics. I’ve known Rev. Marcella for many years. We had a great visit and I truly appreciated her generosity if spending time with me and giving a healing. She goes from the cellular to the quantum level. (That should help my shingles which is now in its 10th week!). Rev. Marcella has a very busy schedule and can be reached at: 619)283-4782.

Since I am an avid book reader and collector I couldn’t leave the Faire without looking over the array of books they had, all I might add at 50% off! After much soul searching (no pun intended) I bought two books: “Tarot Journaling” by Carrine Kenner (who uses the Celtic cross to unveil your hidden story). The title interested me because I read the Tarot and also present seminars on “Journaling For Success!” Coincidence? Methinks not. Carrine’s lived in Brazil, the twin cities of Minnesota, and now the Midwest. I also noted that she got her BA from CSU Long Beach.

The other book that fascinated me is “The Standing Stones Speak,” by Natasha Hoffman and Hamilton Hill. After visiting Stonehenge, England in 1996, I’ve had an on-going interest in the true meaning of Stonehenge and other monolithic stones throughout the world. This book was written through channeled writing and is very metaphysical. According to its authors, “It unifies the underlying wisdom of Christianity, Buddhism, and the Sufis. It interprets the lives of the great teachers and recounts the dark history of Atlantis…..”

All in all, a wonderful afternoon spent seeing and learning new thoughts and ideas. These are just a few highlights of the Faire. I even got in free because I downloaded a guest pass which they emailed me. For more information on this wonderful event and other cities where they go contact Dean at www.HolisticLivingExpo.com. Hope to see you next Spring in Carlsbad !

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer●Speaker●Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2009 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you.

“HAPPINESS IS … “

2009-10-19T15:24:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG

Happiness, or success, means different things to different people and that’s OK. But, little did I realize I would ever equate doing humdrum housework with happiness!! Nay, success!

As many of you know, on August 17, 2009 I broke out in hundreds of brown lesions down my back, half way across my waist, and up over my right breast. I was horrified because I’d never seen anything like it. A week prior, I had felt a “strangling” sensation in my lungs like someone was crushing me to death. On August 14 x-rays gave a different diagnosis. Then on August 18, my doctor finally confirmed I had shingles!

Perhaps you’re bored by hearing this, but nine (9) weeks later I am still suffering the horrible burning/itching and soreness that this disease inflicts 24/7 on its victims. Tomorrow, October 20 I see a nerve specialist to see if he can numb the nerves in my back! I sure hope so because enough is enough!

If you are over 60 I highly urge you to get the “shingles vaccine.” I was offered it earlier this year by my doctor but declined thinking I’d never get that disease! This is one disease you don’t want to get.

Back to my story. Last Thursday, I was determined to do some menial housework like washing my kitchen and bathroom floors! They had not been done since just before my illness and I was ashamed of how dirty they were. (These floors are very tiny, maybe the size of a postage stamp). Nevertheless, it proved a real challenge for me. Also, I had to bend down and lift “stuff” off the floors that I had not been able to put away. Anytime I tried to bend down to pick something up I was in excruciating pain and had to give up!

What would normally take me about 30-45 minutes took me a few hours ... I could not keep my oxygen tank on because it was too heavy. Fortunately, I used a product called “mop and glow” that did not require any rinsing after applying and also leaves a nice shine. After cleaning a few squares of linoleum I had to sit down and rest. Hence, it prolonged the project. But my elation upon completion and the sense of true accomplishment were exhilarating!

Now, I go into my kitchen or bathroom and just look at the floors. I am thrilled to see them so clean. And, the beauty is that I did it myself for myself! Nothing can replace the feeling of satisfaction you get when you know you’re not a victim of circumstances! That you can take care of yourself regardless of the situation, even if it may take a little longer..

I forgot to mention that I also vacuumed my living room and dining area same day. Again, I had to take it in stages but it eventually got done.

When somebody comes to visit me now, I am not ashamed if they use the bathroom, or I go into my kitchen and offer them a cup of tea. Ah yes, happiness or success is being able to take care of yourself in your own home when you have the strength and willingness to try.

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2009 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you.

QUIGONG TO THE RESCUE!

2009-09-23T18:32:00.000-07:00

bY Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G

It is hard for me to believe that I am coming to the end of my 5th week with Shingles!! I don’t ever remember ever having such a debilitating disease, and, it certainly can’t be compared with the Chicken Pox I had as a child. While many of the lesions have healed many still have not, which means I still experience periodic stabbing pain and incessant itching and a terrible burning sensation.

However, I took advantage of another, wonderful, long distance (free) healing session with Michael Mohoric on September 13. As the session began, I felt a warmth start in my feet, up my legs, and through the rest of my body. It’s remarkable, when you think that for days my feet had been ice cold, especially at nght. But I was either too tired, or too lazy, to get up and put socks on!.

Gradually, I became aware that the incessant itching and burning that I experience 24/7 had lifted. I was amazed and in awe of this revelation. I had not been free of these symptoms for a month, they were my constant companions, and now I sensed an unusual freedom from them. I didn’t know whether to laugh or cry, it had been so long since I felt like a normal person. Shingles had taken over my life! My body still looks hideous from the lesions, and I don’t know how much scarring will remain.

However, I still have occasional bursts of pain, burning, and itching, but nothing like the 24/7 symptoms I am used to experiencing. My doctor said I had a virulent case of Shingles and now I believe her.

Today, I am grateful I can drive my own car anywhere! I can shop for groceries on my own, and take myself off to doctors’ appointments, etc. Over the weekend, I even did laundry for the first time in 6 weeks! And, I sat at my easel and dabbled with my oil paints for about 2 hours! Something I’ve not done in months. I still get very fatigued after a couple of hours even though I’m on oxygen 24/7. But now I am listening to my body and not my head!
Gradually, I am getting my life back together but I need a lot of patience too. Maybe that’s my lesson to learn.

Meanwhile, if you would like more information about Quigong and the wonderful sessions Michael Mohoric conducts, please visit his website to learn more: www.qigongenergyhealing.com, or email him at mohoric9@gmail.com. Thank you and I look forward to hearing from you, especially if you’ve ever had Shingles or have some good home remedies for it.

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2009 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you.

THANK GOD FOR FRIENDS AND NEIGHBORS!

2009-09-20T18:34:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G

As many of you know, I’ve just completed my 5th week of suffering the agonies of Shingles! Mercifully, I’ve turned the corner of this debilitating disease. While I still experience the occasional stabbing pains and incessant itching, it has lessened considerably in intensity and duration! For that, I am most grateful. To say that my personality has suffered is putting it mildly! My little dog no longer recognizes or listens to me! She sees me as some out of control moaning monster. Little does she know she is responsible for my even getting out of bed every day! Hence, she’s become a big part of my recovery.

But, I am also very grateful to friends and neighbors who rallied behind me and offered many services and help, e.g., driving me to doctor’s appointments, x-rays, lab work, etc., picking up prescriptions, driving me to the supermarket when I could stand long enough while clutching on to a cart for balance; others brought me home made soups, dinners and desserts! I am so blessed to have these folks in my life and hereby thank them again: Willeen Hassler, Darlene Siddons, Bev Hodges, Judy Carlisto, Barbara Cornell and Rudy, Louis and Bob Tharp, Gail Stillman and Bergie and Jack McClendon, to name a few. You all brought joy and hope into my life.

Today, I’m listening to my body and not my head! If I feel tired I will rest until I can carry on again. This week marked some precious milestones for me. I was able to drive myself to my doctor’s office and took my little dog with me. The freedom I felt was wonderful! On Friday, I got out my oil paints and some canvases and started painting again! While it only lasted 2 hours, it felt good to use my hands again. Saturday, I did my first laundry in 6 weeks – tons of sheets, towels, pillowcases, etc. Prior to this, I couldn’t even bend down to pick up a dropped pen or pencil I was in too much pain. I couldn’t even pick up the laundry it felt so heavy. While it might seem trivial to some, it’s a major milestone for me.

Each day brings me more independence, increasing good health, and gratitude for everyone and everything in my life. Lastly, I want to thank everyone who prayed for me! The power of prayer is well known and the results are unmistakable!

Ciao,

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

SHINGLES? WHAT’S THAT YOU’VE GOT?

2009-08-30T20:13:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan

As summer comes to a roaring end I, too, feel like I’m going up in flames and itching. I thought shingles was for young people, not senior citizens like me! I can’t repeat what the last two weeks have been like – agony, the tortures of the damned! Why try to be poetic about it, it’s been pure hell.

Yes, I’ve been under a bit of stress but this is ridiculous. Who doesn’t have some stress today? What started out as excruciating chest pains, like someone was turning my lungs inside out finally evolved into a full blown case of shingles! Ugly brown blisters that itched and burned simultaneously.

Be compassionate to anyone you know with this illness. It is not for cissies. I’ve not felt like cooking or eating so my doctor suggested I buy “Ensure” a drink with lots of vitamins, etc. If you can take your friend with shingles a home cooked meal, by all means do so. You will be reaped with eternal gratitude. Better yet, if you can walk the person’s dog, by all means offer. My little Shih-Tzu just doesn’t understand. I try to explain it to her but she just looks at me with those big brown eyes and cocks her head.

Just as I was getting ready for teaching my classes “Journaling for Success” and “The Dynamics of Goal Setting” at the new Oceanside Senior Center I get hit with this. This week should see a turning point in my battle with shingles!

Meanwhile, please keep me in your prayers! Thanks.

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Speaker ● Writer ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2009 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you.

QIGONG ENERGY HEALING

2009-08-11T16:51:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G

Little did I realize there can be wonderful healing benefits from using alternative medicines. Traditional medicine does its best trying to heal our bodies and minds. We learn to accept and live with a diagnosis handed down by our doctors and specialists. It’s almost like we are a nation of sheep when we go in for the final diagnosis to a baffling illness, and blindly accept the prognosis!

I remember vividly how I felt on July 9, 2009 as I left the pulmonary specialist’s office in Encinitas, CA with his verdict ringing in my ears … I felt devastated, almost worthless! He told me I had emphysema and would need to be on oxygen for the rest of my life. Plus, I would have to continue both high powered, high priced medications daily. Seeing my distress, he said “Well, at least it’s not cancer!” That did little to improve my mood.

I stood outside his office door unable to move. Tears streamed down my cheeks as I tried to console myself that I had had a "good innings” as they say in England! After all, I was 76 years old and should be grateful for all the things I had accomplished… Then it dawned on me that I am a survivor. I had survived the Battle of Britain and came to America with my parents and twin brother to start a new life.

Then, a poignant memory flooded back to me from Spring 1981 when a doctor informed me “I can’t help you. You are an alcoholic. I’m sending you to AA. Frankly, you’re too sophisticated for them but I don’t know where else to send you!” Little did he or I know what I survivor I am. I took his diagnosis on the chin, went to an AA meeting and have been clean and sober by the grace of God for 28 years!

Hence, with that powerful memory and strong determination, I thought to myself “Doctor, thank you for sharing (your opinion) but you don’t know me. I’m going to beat this rap!” That’s when I got an email from Michael Mohoric advising or another, free, Qigong Energy Healing session on Sunday, July 19, 2009. I was besides myself with joy! I immediately contacted Michael and told him what my latest medical prognosis was and how I wanted to beat this rap!

Folks, without going into a lot of detail, MIRACLES are happening in my life! Each day brings new support and wondrous healing! I owe a deep debt of gratitude to Michael and his Qigong Energy Healing methods, as well as other holistic modalities that I use. If you would like to learn more about Qigong and its wonderful healing properties, please check out Michael’s website: http://www.qigongenergyhealing.com, or email him at mohoric9@gmail.com.

Feel free to leave me a comment.

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

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“WHEN THE STUDENT IS READY THE TEACHER APPEARS!"

2009-07-30T22:51:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan

How many times have I heard that tenet, or, given it lip service? Innumerable. July has turned out to be one of the most exciting months of my life. Every time I turn around another Aha moment manifests itself. I know there are no coincidences in the universe but as I’ve changed old habits, beliefs, and values to honor myself more, an article, book, seminar or CD has appeared talking about that very subject. It’s almost like a validation of my actions.

For example, last week I let go of something and some people who were very dear to me. Something triggered my taking a closer look at the relationship and I knew it had become toxic. I thought it would be painful parting ways but it was not, because I let them go with love.

I realize that everything in the universe is energy and we each vibrate at different energy levels. Sometimes we try to give a gift to a person vibrating at a different energy level from ours and that person cannot accept the gift because they do not see the value in it… alas, because they do not value themselves.

While I’ve purposely left names and events unsaid I trust you get the message. Our feelings are very important and should not be swept under the rug. Many years ago, in London, England, just after WWII, I attended a girls’ boarding school. I can vividly remember a lay teacher (Ms.Kelleher) telling me “I’m not interested in your feelings. I’m interested in your thoughts!” I was eleven years old at the time and have never forgotten her or her admonition. As a result, all my life I’ve stuffed my feelings and downplayed my skills and talents…

Hence, last week’s action on my part is a gigantic leap forward, a true act of faith! If you’d like to read a wonderful article that came across my computer yesterday, regarding “toxic relationships” by Maria Mar, then please go to David Riklan’s website at www.selfgrowth.com

Meanwhile, I’m still journaling on and celebrating other powerful Aha moments this month that are rapidly changing my life. I look forward to sharing these insights with you shortly.

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Speaker ● Writer ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2009 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you.

OCEANSIDE SR. CENTER DEBUTS!

2009-07-02T09:52:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan

One of the perks of being a freelance writer is that I get to write about my community, Oceanside, California. This city, by the magnificent Pacific Ocean and breathtaking harbor, can now boast a beautiful new Senior Center. It is the second senior center in this growing populace.

Why am I raving about it so much? Because ever since I moved here from San Francisco, in 1997, I’ve heard about and waited for the “powers to be” to sanction it. I know, twelve years is not a long time for such a project to manifest. Others have waited far longer than I. But, I am very happy and grateful that it is now fait accompli!

The Grand Opening took place on June 6 and was presided over by Mayor Jim Wood, and councilman Mark Feller among others. Attendance was expected to be about 500 people but it must have reached at least 2,000!

It was a very festive occasion with a society band, folks dressed in exquisite evening attire and ladies in bejeweled evening gowns dancing to the sound and songs of the Big Band era! I was transfixed by memories of dancing to the Dorsey Brothers at the Waldorf Astoria in New York. Yes, that was my era, and I’m proud of it… when you could actually understand and swoon to the words being sung!

Why have I waited so long to report this happy event? I was lucky enough to capture two beautiful women dancing in all their finery. One was 93 years young, and dressed in a gorgeous black, bejeweled evening gown! The other, was dressed in a romantic lavender evening gown with exquisite hat. Unfortunately, I did not get their names and, not being a techie, I have been unable to get their photos uploaded to my website and blogs. But I will keep at it!

Meanwhile, I urge you to check out this wonderful new facility. It is located not far from my home, right off Oceanside Boulevard and Plaza del Oro, in the new Corozon complex. It boasts the latest in gym equipment, a fitness center, spacious classrooms, a grand cafeteria, which will serve hot meals come the Fall, computers, an outdoor patio for various events and, of course, a friendly and courteous staff!

It is well worth a visit when you are next in the area. I’d love to hear from you when you do!

Ciao!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

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SHAKESPEARE ANYONE?

2009-06-06T12:39:00.000-07:00

By Shirley Carolan, ATM-G

For those Shakespeare lovers out there I thought you’d like to know about this new group which is just forming here in North San Diego County.

Shakespeare Votaries of Carlsbad is a new discussion group devoted to the study of the works of William Shakespeare, the Bard of Avon.

The purpose of our group is to feature lectures by guest speakers about Shakespeare’s poetry, plays, and soliloquies, followed by an open discussion.

Meetings are held the first Monday of every month, tentatively set at various locations within Carlsbad and the North Coast area from 7:00 to 8:30 PM. This is not an established organization. Any suggestions you may have will be most welcome.

If you are interested in meeting on a regular basis to hear these talks, please email us at the.bard1564@gmail.com, or follow on us on Twitter (user name: "shakes_votaries") for upcoming details.

For more information please call Paul Uhler at (760) 730-9166.

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Speaker ● Writer ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2009 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you.

GIFTS OF RECOVERY!

2009-05-31T22:44:00.000-07:00

BY Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG

As we wrap up May, I am astounded at all the books, newsletters, blogs, and eBooks I have either bought or subscribed to in the last two months. In the next few weeks I’ll be sharing some links with you to free eBooks on subjects ranging from the metaphysical to the “how to” e.g., “Program your Subconscious Mind, Fear of Money and Success in Freelance Writers, Keys to Phenomenal Self Confidence.” But first, I want to be sure that all the promises are sincere before referring these links to others. Hence, I will be busy doing a lot of the exercises in each program.

I’ve read eight books in the last two months and passed several on to others. They’ve ranged from strong mysteries - psychological thrillers to church intrigues and murder such as “The Secret Supper,” by Javier Sierra which I could not put down, to “The Jesus Papers,” by Michael Baigent(which has me spellbound). Then the two books on Hillary Clinton, one pro the other con, “The Case For Hillary Clinton” by Susan Estrich, and the other by Edward Klein, whose title I now forget since I’ve given the book away.

I won’t get into all the new blogs and newsletters I’ve discovered but they are a treasure trove of ideas and possibilities. So stay tuned because I’m sure I’ll be passing on more information that you might be able to use (at no cost).

Perhaps it’s just as well that I’ve had some “downtime” else I would not have discovered so many new things, people and ideas. I’m excited about the 2 phone calls I got this weekend about starting two completely different groups in north San Diego County. There are folks with a plethora of ideas out there that I did not know existed before.

Once I am totally recuperated from the after effects of pneumonia and being on oxygen 24/7 I am sure I will look back on this period of “downtime” as the catalyst for the beginning of a whole new life and friendships! I already feel blessed so it can only get better!

Yes, there’s a golden lining, or lesson, to learn even when things don’t go our way, if only we can find it! Stay tuned!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer●Speaker●Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2009 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you.

CONVALESCING IN STYLE!

2009-05-16T15:48:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan,ATM-G

This is not my usual post. I'm feeling a bit sorry for myself. I never imagained the day would come whereby I'd have to put my life on "hold." A part of me is very grateful to be “on the mend” and gaining more strength daily. Another part of me says “Bah, Humbug!” you’re not that sick! Well, I found out this week, when I saw the pulmonary specialist, that age and body have their own agenda for healing. Despite my wishing otherwise, I have to acquiesce to the good doctor’s counsel.

To say that he read me the riot act is putting it mildly. When I asked him if I could go on jury duty in June he got apoplectic and said “Absolutely not, you’re recovering from a severe lung disease and must stay on oxygen 24/7 for another 2-3 months! “... It was no good fighting with him and so I knew other activities I’d planned on would have to be curtailed too.

I know a part of my problem is that I never planned on ever “retiring,” and to have an enforced “down time” is anathema to me. Of course, I know that has its roots in childhood when I was never allowed to be sick! But this is pure agony for me. Yes, I’m reading a lot of books and downloading all kinds of goodies from the internet but that’s not quite the same as gadding about. I miss my Toastmaster Club, friends, and all the weekly activities.

This week I will be celebrating birthday number 76! I don’t know how I got to be this old because I really feel I’m in my late 20s. The one good thing about looking in the mirror at myself is the white hair. I used to pay good money in San Francisco to get this color and now it is natural! Toastmaster friends are taking me out to dinner for my birthday and I’m really looking forward to it.

So, instead of complaining, I guess I’ll get my “Gratitude” journal dusted off read it and start adding some new ideas and things that I am grateful for. This week both my little dog, Krissy, and I had minor surgery. She’s a little trouper despite the fact she’s only 12 pounds. I don’t know what I would do without her. Now, she’s something to be grateful for!

Adieu!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2009 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you.

MIRA COSTA COLLEGE AWARD

2009-04-29T14:13:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan

Last Saturday, April 25, 2009, I, along with many others celebrated the Annual "EXPRESSIONS" Awards from Mira Costa College. Many art caategories were honored, from poets, writers, digital works, and beautiful drawings and sketches by continuing education students. Our work can now be seen published in the Spring 2009 "Expressions" yearbook from Mira Costa College.

It was a very festive day with artists, friends, colleagues, teachers, and scrumptuous refreshments. I feel so honored that my work was selected and that I got to read it in front of a live audience. Following is my poem. I hope you enjoy it too!

HOME AGAIN, HOME AGAIN
By Shirley M. Carolan

Home again, home again
That’s where I long to be
In the land that bore me
And gave me liberty

Oh, it’s been a long time since I left
That ancestral land
Whose noble virtues
Molded my character and dreams
Whose history saw the Magna Carta
Signed by the king at Runnymede

Oh yes, the New World is
Full of opportunities
and changes everywhere
‘Tis a place of new beginnings
and scenery beyond compare

But it’s home again, home again
To that isle across the sea …
For I’ve done my duty,
And long to rest my bones again
In the English countryside
In quiet anonymity!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Artist ● Speaker
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2009 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you.

OCEANSIDE DAYS OF ART FAIRE

2009-04-20T20:09:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan

This past weekend Oceanside celebrated its Annual Days of Art Faire. I had it scheduled on my calendar for months and was avidly looking forward to it. Alas, this is the first time in years that I have missed it. I was looking forward to meeting the artists and learning new painting techniques, and,I had planned on writing a wonderful article about the merits of living in North San Diego County, specifically Oceanside.

However, I have a good reason for not making it to the Faire this year. Since I got home from my 10-day hospital stint because of complications from pneumonia, I have been on oxygen 24/7 and tapering off meds. On Friday, April 17, 2009 I “volunteered” at the Carlsbad Oceanside Art League Gallery from 2-5 PM. While it was a lot of fun, and I met some wonderful people from all over the USA I ran out of oxygen on the drive home. I kept my cool and said a few prayers to help me get safely home and to avoid any traffic accidents. My concern was for others as well as myself.

The next day, I was flat on my back and didn’t rise until about 4 PM. I guess I overdid it at the Gallery. I was so intent on telling everyone about the Faire, making sure they got the flyer, and telling them they would see our “Artist of the Month,” Dave Gulewich there. Also, I got about 50% of them to fill out our “People’s Choice” award form so that they would be eligible for a prize at the end of the month. A very busy afternoon indeed. In addition, I locked up the Gallery which was not on the original agenda.

It was then I discovered that my oxygen tanks only hold enough oxygen for three (3) hours which would include travel to and from any event. H’m, I thought the tanks held more oxygen than that but at least I now knew I had to plan any future trips carefully.

Hot weather is not my bag since I’m a transplant from San Francisco. The weather this weekend was indeed hot, some might call it balmy. After much soul searching I chose not to exhaust myself for two hours at the Faire. I missed it dearly and can only hope that all the visitors I met at the Carlsbad Oceanside Art League made it to the Faire especially since I told them I would be there!

If you made it to the Faire, I'd love to hear from you. Meanwhile, here’s to next year’s Faire, Oceanside!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Speaker ● Writer ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2009 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you.

POETRY REWARDED!

2009-03-31T13:44:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan

Last January, at the encouragement of my art teacher, I decided to submit some poetry in an annual contest that Mira Costa College was sponsoring for its students. It was the first time I had submitted poetry for publication even though I’ve written it for years and kept it to myself.

Today, I received a lovely letter from Lynda L. Lee, Dean Community Education of Mira Costa College, Oceanside, CA advising that my poetry has been accepted for inclusion in the Continuing Education publication "Expressions from Mira Costa." There were 160 entries submitted so this is pretty neat.

Also, I've been invited to attend a special event in my honor on Saturday, April 25 at the Community Learning Center, from 1 PM-3PM, at the college and have been asked to read my work. What fun!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2009 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you.

YOUR HEALTH IS YOUR FORTUNE!

2009-03-27T09:50:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G

It is with much joy and gratitude that I am now recuperating at home after spending 10 days at Scripp’s Memorial Hospital, Encinitas, CA. I was diagnosed with complications and pneumonia necessitating I.V.s and oxygen 24-7.

Without going into all the gory details, I feel like I am a far different woman than I was at the beginning of the month. I am much more pro-active where my health is concerned, which the hospital encourages its patients to be. I kept a daily Journal of everything that transpired… the good, bad and the ugly! Hence, you will see some articles from me that are both humorous and poignant.

The articles will offer tips to folks faced with an emergency hospital stay, what to take with you, who to notify, etc. Also, pointers on “How to Behave When Visiting Someone in the Hospital!” Yes, believe it or not, many folks don’t have a clue how to act when visiting a hospital! Some of my suggestions are being forwarded to the head of Scripps in the hopes that some much needed changes will take place for the betterment of patients!

For now, I am ecstatic for the health that I have. I realize I can handle any difficulty/problem or stress if I have good health. Health to me is more important than money, relationships or talent. I can go anywhere in the world and enjoy new sights, sounds, spices and savor the experiences when I have good health. Without good health, I am nothing… a shadow of my former self, perhaps even dependent on the good will of others to care for me…

Folks, take care of yourselves and be pro-active when it comes to your health… you’ll be glad you did!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Writer ● Speaker ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2009 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you.

GIVING BACK … is a priviledge!

2009-02-20T17:30:00.000-08:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G

One of the true perks of being a long time member of Toastmasters International is that many civic groups get to hear about you and offer you the opportunity to judge high school contestants using their public speaking skills at the various levels of competition.

This is an opportunity I truly love. It takes me back to my teen years when I represented my high school, Queen of the Rosary Academy, Amityville, NY, in the Long Island Oratorical Championships. I was 15 ½ years old and had emigrated to America just one year earlier. I was a senior in high school. The nuns felt they had a winner in me because of my strong British accent. Alas, I came in second place because the judges said that the American students had to acquire “that accent” (British) in order to be heard distinctly all over the auditorium. Nevertheless, it was a wonderful experience.

February 8 was any opportunity to give back to my community again as a judge.. The Lions Club of Carlsbad held their local public speaking contest. It was wonderful and I was in awe of all the students who participated. They were all talented and unique in their content and delivery. I wrote the following article for local newspapers:

CARLSBAD LIONS CLUB HOLDS CONTEST

The Carlsbad Lions Club hosted its annual Students Speaker Contest on February 8, 2009 at The Granary, Magee Park, Carlsbad. Four students from Carlsbad High School participated. Their topic was “Water – Will California be Left High & Dry?” Each contestant researched, wrote material and spoke for 5 to 10 minutes.
Local Toastmasters, Pat Rarus and Shirley Carolan from Tick Talk Toastmaster Club, Carlsbad, were again invited to be part of the panel of judges and later gave feedback to the speakers.

The goal of the contest is to encourage youth involvement, develop self-esteem, confidence in public speaking and offer financial scholarships for the formal education of the students. For more information on this event contact Elaine Brammel at 760-753-1175, or EPBCMA@aol.com.

Students participating were: Ibriham Keyrollos, Natasha Maldi, Kathryn Allan and Yujia Pan. The winner was Yujia Pan who received $50 and each of the contestants received $25. Yujia will now go on to participate at the Zone level.

(Pictured above are, left to right: Toastmaster Shirley Carolan, Yujia Pan, winner, and Toastmaster Pat Rarus).

CARLSBAD CHAMBER OF COMMERCE BUSINESS JOURNAL

2009-02-09T16:31:00.000-08:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G

My Toastmaster club, Tick Talk Toastmasters of Carlsbad, California joined the Carlsbad Chamber of Commerce last November. This is almost an unprecedented action for a non-profit, educational organization like us to undertake. We did so to boost our membership and attract local businesses and merchants to our club.

We were also asked to write a brief article on public speaking… or what steps to take when giving a speech, without actually mentioning Toastmasters or Tick Talk Toastmasters. I found this assignment challenging to say the least. The first two articles were rejected because they were considered blatant advertising for Toastmasters.

Finally, I attacked it through the eyes of an Evaluator giving constructive feedback to a speaker. Voila, that idea was accepted!. Following is the article I wrote which appears in the February 2009 Carlsbad Business Journal, entitled: “HOW TO STREAMLINE YOUR SPEECHES! “

"You know you’ve “arrived” when someone asks you to give a presentation to a live audience. Whether you talk about your business, products, services, new market trends, or hobbies, the rules are the same.

As a newbie, It is very tempting to want to tell your audience everything you know about your specific topic. But, a word of advice “Less is More!” It’s better to leave your audience clamoring for more than overdoing it with minutiae clichés, pet words, and jargon. The mind and the seat can only absorb so much. Better to save some material for a follow-up speech than to overdo it.

While the topic may be of utmost interest to you, if you’ve not engaged your audience, or given them something to think about, or take action on, then you run the risk of losing them!

Here are some tips, from a 28 year veteran of public speaking, to help you streamline your talk:

• Organize your material. Make sure it has a strong opening, body, and conclusion!

• Rehearse your speech! Make sure you “own the words” before getting in front of an audience. This will help you stay focused, handle nerves, stay within a specified time frame!

• Start your presentation with a quote, statistic, or controversial idea … it’s a good way to grab your audience’s attention.

• Use audio/visual aides: a handout, or miniature CD to give more details or examples.
Use slides, an overhead projector, flipchart, or music to create a mood.

• Wrap it up by asking your audience a question, e.g., “Before I conclude, are there any questions?”

• Tell your audience you’d be happy to send them more information, if they’d like to leave their name and email address at the end of your presentation.

The latter point is an excellent way to follow up with them and to assess if they have a genuine need of your products or services. It is a non-threatening way to market to a possible future client

These are just a few tools to help you streamline your presentation so that it flows, is interesting, and lets the audience know you are an expert on your subject. Hence, Less is More! If you’d like more information, please contact me at: 760-732-0663 or www.ticktalk.org."

Happy Speaking!

Shirley M. Carolan
Speaker Writer Artist
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
artistwithaflair@att.net
www.shirleycarolan.com
http://angelscross.blogspot.com
http://smcarolan.blogspot.com

IS CUSTOMER SERVICE DEAD? – cont’d

2009-01-31T22:14:00.000-08:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G

Maybe customer service is not dead after all but it’s certainly dormant in many cases. If you’ve ever experienced poor customer service from a company or institution that supposedly prides itself on good customer relations then you have a right to complain and let them know how you feel. Obviously, it pays to be clearheaded when you decide to let the “violators” know precisely what, when, where, how, who, happened, etc.

Last November I experienced very poor customer service at a local hospital, where I was rushed by paramedics in the early evening hours after a severe fall, requiring x-rays and medical treatment. The discharge was very sloppy, uncaring, and traumatic.

When I later received a letter from them asking me to complete a “patient satisfaction survey” on how well they performed their jobs, I decided to be honest and share what I experienced which meant reliving a painful experience. I thought that would be the end of it.

Lo and behold, on Friday, January 30, 2009, I received a phone call from Mike DeMott, Director of Performance Improvement at Tri City Hospital. He apologized profusely for the staff’s behavior. He also said he would like to read my letter aloud to the medical and office staff at their next meeting. He said it will go a long way to improve their customer relations since it was an actual experience and not a textbook lesson.

I told Mr. DeMott that since the survey wanted me to express my opinions honestly, and that they would be confidential I chose to answer it. I also thanked him for calling and expressing his concern and offering an apology again for the staff’s inadequate behavior.

This episode has restored my faith in this hospital. It wasn’t the first time I’ve received emergency medical treatment there and, it may not be the last. Now, I am over my misgivings and grateful that I took action.

Maybe that’s the lesson to learn – when you encounter bad or rude customer service speak up and let the powers to-be know about it!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Speaker ● Writer ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2008 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you.

SOMETHING NEW’S BEEN ADDED

2009-01-19T13:28:00.000-08:00

By Shirley M. Carlan, ATM-G

One of my goals for this year is to add a short video of meaningful clips and music that I feel represents the essence of who I am, what I am, and what I feel is important in my life today. .. my “philosophy of life.” A tall order you might say …very metaphysical indeed. Why that theme instead of something related to your writing and speaking skills? Good question!

After spending many hours at the end of last year assessing what I enjoy about my life and what no longer serves me, I decided to keep it simple and not promote the business side in my video Writing and speaking will always be an integral part of my life, like breathing, and I will continue those activities and promote them separately. .

Lo and behold, after looking at many videos out there and wondering if I should invest in one, I discovered a local source quite by accident. Darlene Siddons is a friend and business colleague who started a video clip business last year, as one of her many successful ventures. I found her website video very inspirational and uplifting and decided that I wanted my own video. What you just saw was created by Darlene. I supplied the sayings and Darlene provided the slides and music and put it all together for me. If you would like more information please contact Darlene directly at: www.spiritedboutique,com., or, 760-.726-8390. She is easy to work with, very professional, creative, reasonable, and wants you to be successful.

To view the video please click on the following link: www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZntvslTMlkQ.

Your comments and emails are always welcome so feel free to leave me a note.

HOW TO STREAMLINE YOUR SPEECHES!

2009-01-07T20:04:00.000-08:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G

My Toastmaster Club, Tick Talk Toastmasters of Carlsbad, CA, recently joined the local Chamber of Commerce. We wanted to build our membership and felt that business owners, companies, professionals, sales staff, etc. would benefit greatly from knowing how Toastmasters can help them communicate better, in both their professional and personal lives. Hence, the following is an article I wrote for their Business Journal.

"You know you’ve “arrived” when someone asks you to give a presentation to a live audience. Whether you talk about your business, products, services, new market trends, or hobbies, the rules are the same.

As a newbie, It is very tempting to want to tell your audience everything you know about your specific topic. But, a word of advice “Less is More!” It’s better to leave your audience clamoring for more than overdoing it with minutiae clichés, pet words, and jargon. The mind and the seat can only absorb so much. Better to save some material for a follow-up speech than to overdo it.

While the topic may be of utmost interest to you, if you’ve not engaged your audience, or given them something to think about, or take action on, then you run the risk of losing them!

Here are some tips, from a 28 year veteran of public speaking, to help you streamline your talk:
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• Organize your material. Make sure it has a strong opening, body, and conclusion!

• Rehearse your speech! Make sure you “own the words” before getting in front of an audience. This will help you stay focused, handle nerves, stay within a specified time frame!

• Start your presentation with a quote, statistic, or controversial idea … it’s a good way to grab your audience’s attention.

• Use audio/visual aides: a handout, or miniature CD to give more details or examples.
Use slides, an overhead projector, flipchart, or music to create a mood.

• Wrap it up by asking your audience a question, e.g., “Before I conclude, are there any questions?”

• Tell your audience you’d be happy to send them more information, if they’d like to leave their name and email address at the end of your presentation.

The latter point is an excellent way to follow up with them and to assess if they have a genuine need of your products or services. It is a non-threatening way to market to a possible future client

These are just a few tools to help you streamline your presentation so that it flows, is interesting, and lets the audience know you are an expert on your subject. Hence, Less is More! If you’d like more information, please contact me at: 760-732-0663 or www.ticktalk.org."

Happy Speaking!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Artist ● Speaker ● Writer
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2008 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you.

HAPPY NEW YEAR AND 2009!

2008-12-31T17:30:00.000-08:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G

It’s almost here and I’m excited! I feel so blessed to live in beautiful, Southern California, in a little doll’s house, with my Shih-Tzu, Krissy. I feel that 2009 is going to be a great year for our Country, my family and friends, and me personally … I can only wish the best for others, but I can personally change how I view my world, my life, and what I am manifesting… if that’s not who, what, or where I want to be! Wow, that’s powerful!

My mantra for the New Year is “To Thine Own Self Be True!” For me that’s a tall order because it means letting go of the restrictions and limitations I’ve placed upon myself and instead, see myself as a loving, deserving, worthy, nurturing, successful human being. It also means letting go of the expectations I’ve had and placed on others. It means respecting their view of the world without bemoaning they change to my way of thinking and doing. It’s called “live and let live!” This means I can travel lighter and let go of any emotional baggage I’ve bottled up, which only zaps my creativity and worthiness. Yes, it means getting rid of all the excuses, the coulds, woulds, and should and start living up to my full potential. It means being responsible! A noble undertaking indeed. Nobody else can do this for me. Just like nobody else could do my first Firewalk!

One of my goals this year is to write in my Journal on a regular basis. I find this is the best method for me to keep tabs on how well I’m living up to my dreams and goals and what I need to do to stay on track, should I veer off course.

Of course I’ve set both personal and professional goals for the coming year but I’m also keeping in mind that “less is more!” No more setting too many, or impossible, goals for myself. I intend to keep them manageable and doable. I don’t want to reach the end of the year, like this year, feeling burned out, unappreciated, and bogged down in minutiae.

To everyone out there, I wish you all a very healthy, prosperous and successful New Year! Do let me know how you are doing!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Speaker ● Writer ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2008 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you.

IS CUSTOMER SERVICE DEAD?

2008-12-29T18:43:00.000-08:00

By Shirley Carolan, ATM-G

Perhaps in my golden years I’m getting a bit naïve but I wonder whatever happened to the old adage “the customer is always right?” Did it go out of style with high button shoes? Are “20-somethings” not being taught the art of good customer service? Do they not know they are in a service industry/occupation? In essence, if it weren’t for people like me, who needed their employer’s services, they would not even have a job! So, what’s with young women who have this surly and indifferent attitude?

I did not want to ruin my holidays by ruminating on two incidents, that happened just before the holidays that have a common thread. And now, with the New Year fast approaching, I want to get out of the victim role and transcend them.

However, I felt like I was at the mercy of two behemoths: Tri-City Hospital and JC Penney. On November 24, 2008 I slipped and fell while walking my dog at 6:30 pm, smashing up my face and eye glasses. Mercifully, someone finally heard my moaning, called the paramedics and I was rushed off to Tri City Hospital by ambulance. Since I have a fractured back and total right shoulder replacement, I was unable to pick myself up and had no idea if I’d broken more bones – hence I needed the hospital’s emergency room services and x-rays.

On dismissal, about 9:50 PM I was given written follow-up instructions and walked to an exit door. When I asked could someone call me a cab to take me home, the young woman told me to go down the hall and tell the receptionist, on the left-hand side of the hallway, to call a cab. I tottered down the hallway, feeling a bit groggy and in a lot of pain, trying to see through my scratched eye glasses and made my request.

Thirty minutes later, I got my bearings and wobbled back through the emergency waiting room to the receptionist area. It was a different, much younger person on duty. I asked “How long does it take for a taxi to arrive?” She “didn’t know.” I asked could she please call the taxi company and find out if they had left yet? What seemed like ages, she dialed a number and said “I’ve got a woman here with an attitude …” I was too bewildered to remember what else she said. I stumbled back into the emergency waiting room as a cabbie came through the door calling my name.

I explained to the cabbie that I had no ID or wallet on me and she would have to wait while I went into my house to get money to pay for my fare.

As I slowly recovered from this second fall this year, the first in March when I fell and broke my nose, I realized that I could not see through my new eyeglasses, they were indeed scratched. I had just purchased them in August for $174.00 through JC Penney.

On December 8, I set out for JC Penney to see if the lenses could be saved. I gave my name and address to a young clerk and told her why I was there. She put that data into her computer and finally informed me that “the glasses were over a year old …” I took out my paid bill and insurance contract they told me I needed and showed them to her. I said “These eyeglasses are new and here’s all the documentation.”

She informed me that they, JC Penney, did not repair scratches and gave me a business card of a firm in Carlsbad that did. Then I showed her the insurance/guaranty form I had purchased from them and asked would new lenses be covered under this? What seemed like an eternity, I asked her what the problem was. She finally said “You bought these eyeglasses on sale. To replace the lenses will cost you $99.00.” I said “That’s not 10% of what I paid. There’s something wrong. Is this guaranty that I bought worthless?” She would not answer me.

Then, told her I was not interested in what the computer “said” I wanted the name and a website of the company who made the eyeglasses so that I could go on-line when I got home and research it myself. She would not give it to me. Another sales clerk wrote it on a post-it note and handed it to me. As I left JC Penney I told the young woman she needed more training in customer service, especially in dealing with senior citizens. She told me to come back and see her manager.

Neither of these incidents would have bothered me, I’m sure, had I not undergone severe trauma to my body, was in pain and my emotions were raw. Had I not had the accident, I would not have had to go to hospital emergency room, and I would not have to replace my new eyeglasses. Neither would I have encountered such rudeness from clerks working in a service industry. Perhaps someday they will even learn that the customer is their true employer!

My solution was not to go back to JC Penney and be insulted all over again but to start anew. I went to “Lens 4 Less” in Oceanside, talked to the owner, John DiBos, purchased a stylish Oleg Cassini frame, and had my new eyeglasses within a week! I was treated with respect, suggestions, and excellent service for far less money!

I guess the moral of the story is forget dealing with and buying from the big box companies, e.g., JC Penney, and deal with local merchants, small business owners, whom you can talk to face to face, negotiate with and get excellent service and value from.

Shirley M. Carolan
Speaker Writer Artist
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
artistwithaflair@att.net
www.shirleycarolan.com
http://angelscross.blogspot.com
http://smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2008 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you.

FRIENDSHIP IS GOLDEN!

2008-12-16T09:49:00.001-08:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G

At this time of year especially, it’s nice to be surrounded by real/true friends; folks we can be ourselves with, let our hair down with, share our goals and dreams with, without worrying about being scoffed at or put down. Our families may not support us emotionally, and that’s too bad, but that is no reason to want to put our head in the oven! Folks can’t give what they don’t have! If they felt good about themselves, or loved themselves a little bit, they would not treat others unkindly.

It’s important not to go for “Tit for Tat!” It only wears you out and chances are good that you won’t win against your opponent, especially if s/he initiated the negative attitude/behavior/response. When you choose not to respond with “tit for tat” you will transcend your own limitations, rise above the personal feelings of hurt, shame, or inadequacy, and take back your power! Why give your power away to an idiot?

You will find your energy soaring when you realize that you are honoring your own principles and sanity. Until you personally experience the exhilaration of recognizing your true nature and power it’s difficult to appreciate your true value. But, when you learn to validate yourself the sky’s the limit! You will never again be beholden to folks who cannot support you emotionally!.

Tis far better to keep your sanity, realize they are doing the best they can, or know how at this point in time, and that’s all they have to offer, bless them, and let them go with love!

Enough of this soapbox! Treasure your friends! Let them know how much they mean to you. That doesn’t mean going overboard with expensive gifts. Rather, it is giving them the recognition they deserve, whether they expect it or not! Friendship is truly a give and take affair without the need for petty, limiting thoughts or, one-upsmanship. True friendship is money in the bank, better yet, it is priceless! So treat you friends with honor and respect and be sure to let them know how much they mean to you!

Happy Holidays!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Speaker●Writer●Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2008 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you.

THIS WAS THE WEEK THAT WAS!

2008-11-30T10:32:00.000-08:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G

As many of you know, I have a penchant for falling and kissing the sidewalk! Last Monday night, November 24, was no exception. About 6:30 PM while walking my dog, Krissy, I tripped, fell on the sidewalk and smashed up my face. Somebody with a cell phone heard me screaming and paramedics rushed me to Tri City Hosp.

Mercifully, I didn’t break my nose this time, as last March, but I did manage to bugger up my teeth, lips, chin, and my eyeglasses are a total loss. While at the hosp. the Fire Dept. called in to say they had found Krissy and had locked her in my house, where she was when I got home at midnight.

And, this time, it was pitch black outside, so I have a good excuse but I’m determined to find out why I keep falling and breaking bones! Meanwhile, I am so grateful to be puttering around my home – it could be a lot worse!

Tuesday night while playing with my little Shih-Tzu, Krissy, I detected a large, thick, lump on her back. Was it there last week when I took her in for her annual checkup and rabies shot? Did the vet miss it? H’m. I’d better call and take her in again. She was scheduled for Friday at 3:30 PM.

Thanksgiving was spent with my chiropractor and his family and was wonderful despite my “Halloween” appearance. This holiday is significant to my family since we boarded the SS America at Southampton, England on November 27, 1947 and set sail for America, arriving in New York on December. 4, 1947. It’s been an interesting 61 years.

Friday, the vet insisted the lump was not there the week before when he examined her but it needed to be removed immediately! They did some blood work and a biopsy and scheduled her for surgery at 8:00 AM Saturday morning.

I spent all day Saturday worrying about her and the severity of her condition. When I picked her up last night I didn’t recognize her. Her little 12 lb. frame seemed to have shrunk and she was all doped up. I quickly got over my worry as I settled the vet’s bill, $805.00! I know, I know you, can’t put a price tag on love and she’s my entire family!

It’s been an expensive week, when I tally all the drama up: the ambulance will cost $650.00 + emergency room treatment and x-rays. Plus cab fare home from hospital at midnight and now Krissy’s bill $805.00.

I’ve been up all night tending to Krissy. As I tried to get her out of the car to bring her into the house she screamed sending a blood curdling chill up my spine. She has part of her back (fur) shaved showing a 3 inch gash with tons of staples!! She goes back in 14 days to have them removed …

That was the week that was … and I’m glad it’s almost over!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Speaker ● Writer ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2008 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you.

TOASTMASTERS CAN HELP YOUR BUSINESS GROW!

2008-11-12T17:08:00.000-08:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G

Tick Talk Toastmasters Club is a new member of the Carlsbad Chamber of Commerce. This is quite remarkable since we are a microcosm of a huge, world wide, non-profit, educational organization. Our club is pro-active and seized the opportunity to join the Chamber when one of our members, Debra Simpson, also a Chamber member, presented us with the challenge to get out of our comfort zone and spread the word about Toastmasters, Tick Talk Toastmasters in particular.

HOW We Do It!

We believe we can help business owners and their sales staffs reach new heights and more business by taking advantage of what Toastmasters has to offer: the opportunity, in a safe, professional environment, to learn how to communicate effectively, before an audience of peers, who will then give positive feedback on how well the presentation was given, as well as concrete suggestions as to where and how the individual can improve. This is invaluable feedback and gives the individual an opportunity to grow, gain confidence, and avoid the same mistakes repeatedly.

A great tool and benefit of a Toastmasters meeting is that everything is timed, thus members learn to give a verbal presentation in a specific time frame. They also learn how to put a speech/presentation together so that it embodies the techniques of good public speaking: an Opening, Body, and a Close, followed by delivery, vocal variety, and gestures.

Getting Your Feet Wet

Newcomers are encouraged to participate in “Table Topics” and practice the fine art of impromptu speaking! Before long, their confidence soars and they are ready to give their “Icebreaker” speech, thus introducing themselves, their company, their goals and objectives to the Club.

A Grammarian and an Ah Counter give reports at the end of each meeting so that members can learn where they need to pay attention, and how well they express themselves (grammatically).

Members are never left floundering for ideas or feedback. They receive a speech manual from Toastmasters International outlining their first ten speeches, with topic suggestions, delivery, and specific objectives for each speech. An evaluator is assigned to give instant, positive, feedback on each speech given. Once the ten speeches are completed they receive a badge from TI with their new designation “Competent Communicator.”

TAKE ADVANTAGE OF OUR SPEECHCRAFT

Tick Talk Toastmasters is having a 6 week “SPEECHCRAFT” open to the public, starting in January. You’re invited! It’s a great opportunity to see firsthand how Toastmasters works, and how it can enhance your speaking, listening, writing and leadership skills! Yes, Toastmasters is more than just smacking your lips together and hoping something .
worthwhile comes out! We also have most professions represented: lawyers, chiropractors, therapists, teachers, etc. … those people who must address clients, students, etc.

Tick Talk Toastmasters meets every Thursday evening, from 7 PM to 8:30 PM at Carlsbad-by-the Sea, 2855 Carlsbad Blvd. For more information: www.toastmasters.org. Our website is www.ticktalk.org. Our President, Doug Britton can be reached at: (619) 571-2263, or, info@ticktalk.org.

To Recap

When you join Toastmasters International you have joined one of the most prestigious, international, educational, organizations in the world! Not many organizations can boast this. It is among the largest, non-profit organization in the world! Members are committed to learning how to be better communicators, listeners and better leaders. This translates into being better workers, managers, leaders, teachers, parents, etc.

I look forward to meeting and greeting you at our next meeting!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Artist ● Speaker ● Writer
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2008 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you.

O’ ROCKING CHAIR!

2008-11-06T10:20:00.000-08:00

By Shirley Carolan, ATM-G

If you have a rocking chair and enjoy using it, then this article is for you! If you don’t have a rocking chair in your life yet, then I urge you to get one… whether you use it indoors or outdoors it’s one of the best gifts you can give yourself. It’s also very therapeutic for your physical, mental, and emotional well being. Now, I know why President Kennedy appreciated his.

This morning, after I walked my dog, I decided to read the morning papers while sitting on my porch and gently rocking in my rocker. It was a beautiful morning, with the sun’s rays gently streaming down my body, a light breeze fluttered, and a stillness, bordering on peacefulness, filled the air.

Today’s news was positive … gone were the snide and cutting remarks of political parties, the rattling of old skeletons s in the closet, the candidates jockeying for position, etc. It was quite a relief to have the presidential and local elections over with and the results finally announced.

No more would I have to worry about whether or not to switch my party and vote for the opposing candidate. No more would I have to feel guilty if I did so. No more would I have to worry about the sanctity of marriage. As a naturalized American citizen I am proud to have voted and, I am proud to see my “adopted” country mature. I feel truly relieved.

As I put the newspaper away, I chose to spend a few minutes, with eyes closed just rocking in my chair. I felt like I had died and gone to heaven! I started to unwind and just let my mind wander. I was amazed at how grateful and privileged I felt. I had no ax to grind, nothing to prove, no regrets about aging, or fretting over health issues or finances. It was like an out-of-body experience. I felt like I was floating in the air, The birds sounded chirpier, the traffic was muted, my little Shih-Tzu was behaving, all was peaceful as I gently rocked to and fro in my rocker. I didn’t want the experience to end.

How happy I am I made the decision to redo my front porch this summer. Gone is the old outdoor carpeting, being replaced by a bright terra-cotta coat of paint over the cement. Nice rattan furniture, a sofa, a king-sized rocker, a queen-sized rocker, a lovely rattan coffee table, all surrounded by geraniums, chrysanthemums, grape ivy, jade and assorted evergreen plants. It has made this little doll’s house come alive!

Ah yes, I can now experience a glimpse of heaven whenever I want as I sit quietly rocking in my old rocking chair! Do yourself a favor and invest in one too. The benefits are enormous!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Speaker ● Writer ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2008 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you.

HURRY UP AND WAIT!

2008-10-30T11:56:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G

The last five weeks have been extremely stressful and a real challenge for me. In fact, I put much of my life on “hold.” I had a health scare that bordered on terrifying. It all began with a simple annual physical, including some blood work on September 29. That afternoon I received a call telling me that more blood tests needed to be taken and to fast and return the next day. A week later my doctor informed me that I needed to see an oncologist.

That was my 2nd experience in “hurry up and wait.” Getting approval from my insurance company to see an oncologist of their choosing took another week! Getting an appointment with the oncologist took almost 2 weeks. More examples of hurry up and wait!

The oncologist ordered more blood tests (which my insurance company would not give her permission to take. I had to go to an insurance company lab resulting in more delays). Then an ultrasound was ordered.

Another week passed and still no word on a diagnosis of what might be ailing me. Since so much cancer runs in my family, I was really feeling quite nervous and upset. Once in a while I would catch myself silently crying. It took effort to say to myself “Now, Shirley, how would a national treasure handle this?” That thought was enough to calm me down. The woman who called me a “national treasure” back in September will never know the precious gift she gave me!

Since there is just my little Shih-Tzu and me I don’t have much family to share things with. My twin brother was off to New York and had his own challenges to handle. Fortunately, I have a few close, caring, and wonderful friends. They told me to keep my thoughts positive and reminded me that we attract what we think, whether that’s something we want or not. They also said that everything happens when it is supposed to happen. Therefore, let go of “hurry up and wait!”

Be that as it may, I decided to be pro-active about my health. I was not comfortable in my own skin any more. So, I called the oncologist’s office wanting to know the results of all the tests on Monday, October 20. I was told the doctor’s Assistant would get back to me. That didn’t happen.

This Monday, October 27 Dr. Frakes told me I do not have cancer or leukemia but my thyroid needs further testing and more blood work! While emotionally, mentally, and spiritually I feel so relieved and grateful, physically I am exhausted ... Now, I look forward to the results of the latest blood work. Also, I am learning that “hurry up and wait” seems to be the normal pace for the medical world and I am learning to live with it.

Meanwhile, I have just taken my life off “Hold” and intend to live it with gusto!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Speaker ● Writer ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2008 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you.

OPEN HOUSE @ TOASTMASTERS!

2008-10-19T17:20:00.001-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG

For those who love to speak, lead, or listen to excellent speakers, why not come to my Toastmaster Club’s Open House this Thursday, October 23? Tick Talk Toastmasters, Club #2113, is a dynamic group of men and women dedicated to self development and improving their communications skills, at work, at home, and at play! We are an eclectic mix of men and women, representing various industries and professions who meet every Thursday, from 7 PM to 8:30 PM to hone our skills and get feedback from our peers! This feedback is priceless and helps us to understand what worked well and where and how we can improve.

The theme of our Open House is “politics as unusual.” Yes, you heard that right. It’s a spoof on the national policital scene. We will have a fake Geiger county to frisk you at the door and you will be asked to remove your shoes.

Come early because we will also have a scrumptious pot luck dinner starting at 6:30 PM. Yes, we have professional bakers as members. And, there will be drinks served too.

Once you see how talented and helpful our members are you may want to participate in our 6 week mini-course known as a “Speechcraft.” This is at a nominal fee and the money can also be applied to a regular membership in Toastmasters International. You will get to write, structure, and deliver a speech on a topic of your choosing and then get an oral and written evaluation. You will participate in “Table Topics” and see how much fun it is to speak extemporaneously! You will also learn the many functions of Toastmastering that come into play at every meeting.

You’re invited to our Open House on October 23, at Carlsbad by the Sea, 2855 Carlsbad Blvd., Carlsbad from 6:30PM to 9 PM. Best of all, it’s free!

What a wonderful opportunity to let go of your fear of public speaking, learn from some pros, have fun and good food in the process. For more information call Sal de Casas at 760-224-1199, or visit www.ticktalk.org.

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Speaker ● Writer ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2008 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you.

RUMPELSTILTSKIN SOARS!

2008-10-14T16:04:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG

If you missed Sunday’s live performance of “Rumpelstiltskin” by the San Diego Opera ensemble you missed a rare treat indeed! This wonderful and talented cast of six thrilled the audience with this classic children’s fairytale by the Brothers Grimm. It literally springs to life!

This lovely fairytale was transformed into a one act opera written by Opera’s own Geisel Director of Education, Dr. Nicholas Reveles , and Librettist /Stage Director J. Sherwood Montgomery. The six Ensemble artists accompanied by their Music Director, perform for a diverse audience, from kindergarten through college students and senior citizens. This outstanding group of artists brings the excitement of live performances to more than 35,000 students and adults each season.

The six Ensemble singers are chosen from auditions held in San Diego every Spring They bring significant professional credits with them, e.g., the Tanglewood and Aspen festivals, Santa Fe Opera, Los Angeles Music Center Opera, Seattle Opera, and Long Beach Opera, Many artists who participate in the Ensemble perform roles in the San Diego Opera’s International Season. Some go on to contracts with such major companies as the New York Metropolitan Opera. All members of this Ensemble have master’s degrees and above.

For those who may have forgotten the Rumpelstiltskin story I offer the following: A poor miller tells a fateful lie to the king” his daughter can spin straw into gold! When Nell discovers what her father has done. She turns to the bad tempered, magical creature Rumpelstiltskin to do her spinning for her. But, in doing so he extracts a terrible demand: her first-born child. He offers the one means of escape: discover his true identity and he will relent. Fortunately, Nell guesses correctly and the opera ends on a triumphant note!

Let’s keep music alive in our community! It’s not too late to purchase tickets to any performance of the rest of this short season. You can purchase tickets through Genevieve Wunder at 760-433-3632, or email 1ndrwm@sbcglobal.net, or you can purchase tickets at the door.

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Speaker ● Writer ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2008 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you.

MUSIC… HOT OFF THE PRESS!

2008-10-01T15:50:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG

For all you music lovers out there who are thinking of buying tickets to the October Oceanside Music Festival, here’s an item hot off the press: The price for the ‘Gala Reception’ has just been reduced to $30/per person!

The ‘Gala Reception’ will kick off the Festival on October 11, 2008 at 6:00 PM with a champagne reception in the Oceanside Museum School of Art, and then at 7:00 PM move to the Sunshine Brooks Theatre where Rich Langen, Don Megill, Dave Megill and Elaine Weidauer will be honored by the Oceanside Cultural Arts Foundation for their lifetime achievements in promoting and supporting young artists. This will be followed by preview performances from several OMFest concerts.

Let’s keep music alive in our community! You can purchase tickets through Genevieve Wunder at 760-433-3632, or email 1ndrwm@sbcglobal.net, or you can purchase tickets at the door.

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Speaker ● Writer ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2008 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you.

MUSIC IS IN THE AIR!

2008-09-26T15:50:00.000-07:00

BY Shirley M. Carolan

For me, work is fun. And, in my free time I enjoy writing, journaling, painting, and of course, music, to name a few diversions. Sometimes I plan for these ahead of time while others are spontaneous. If you love music, then why not plan ahead to attend the Oceanside October Music Festival.

This wonderful annual Music Festival starts on October 11 and runs through October 24, 2008! How fortunate we are to have this lively Festival, now in its 7th year, on our doorstep! It is sponsored by the Oceanside Cultural Arts Foundation.

The Festival has something for everyone’s musical taste, from opera to dixieland jazz to beautiful classical and liturgical music! What’s more the Festival will have performances at several, convenient Oceanside locations.

The Festival kicks off with the Gala Scholarship Reception at the Sunshine Brooks Theater on October 11, followed by the San Diego Opera Ensemble in “Rumplestiltskin,” at the Truax Theatre, El Camino High School on October 12. On October 14 there is the High School Showcase at the same theatre. Things heat up on October 18 with the Cuban salsa group at the Sunshine Brooks Theatre, followed on Sunday, October 19 with the Pacific Concert Band, performing “Peter and the Wolf” at Mission San Luis Rey. On October 24 there will be a “Distinctly American” vocal and jazz theme at the Sunshine Brooks Theatre, wrapping up on Sunday, October 26 with a Festival of classical and liturgical/music at St. Mary’s Star of the Sea! Wow, did I not say there was something for everyone’s taste!

Tickets are reasonably priced. You can purchase them individually or buy the complete set at a great discount!

Keep in mind that all profits go to support local arts and artists. The funds raised at the Gala Scholarship Reception, as well as additional donations, will be used to establish scholarships for local high school seniors who demonstrate excellence in music, and plan to continue their musical careers. This is tax deductible to you. What a great win-win situation!

For more information, please call 760/433-3632

Looking forward to seeing you at one of the concerts!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Artist ● Speaker ● Writer
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2008 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you.

THERE’S SOMETHING ABOUT...

2008-09-25T14:45:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG

There’s something about being called, or named, a “National Treasure,” as I was recently, that changes the dynamics of how one lives one’s life, perceives their fellow man, and gets to eradicate all negative behavior … or, at least decide if the ego is right, and reward it! H’m, how can that be?

Since this is a new phenomenon to me, I am intrigued by what I am discovering about myself. The “national treasure” bit is starting to sink in! After all, one must be at least in their 70s to be even considered for such a noble title! . Furthermore, one must at least have a modicum of sensory acuity, as my dear friend, Tony Robbins, would say. And, one must be willing to say “NO” when appropriate, not buy into other’s treatment of you and above all get rid of the need to major in minor matters! Wow, all this from just once being called an “NT!” .

Quirky as that may seem, that’s what I’m discovering on a daily basis! For example, before being called an “NT” I would rise to the bait if I heard something unsavory being said about me or someone else. Now, it seems I’m getting dozens of emails telling me to vote NO for Governor Sarah Palin, even before the election. I truly do not like being told what to do! I am quite capable of making up my own mind, especially with politics, without succumbing to being a sheep!

Another huge benefit of being called an “NT” is that I don’t have to fall into someone else’s agenda for my life. If someone reneges on something they told me earlier I don’t get into a snit anymore. Instead, I stop and ask myself “How would a “National Treasure” handle this!? Sometimes the answer surprises me! The end result is I get to see how much I’ve let my ego control my life! This is the latest in behavior modification!

How about you? Even if you’re not yet an “NT” how do you live your life? If you’re not sure how often you let your ego rule you, try Journaling the next time you are faced with an important decision!

Stay tuned for more golden nuggets.

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Speaker ● Writer ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2008 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you.

"YOU’RE A NATIONAL TREASURE!"

2008-09-18T11:24:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan

Recently I addressed the Women’s Aviara Club in Carlsbad, California. The original invitation was for March but unfortunately I had a nasty accident where I “kissed the ground” again and ended up with a fractured nose, and multiple cuts and bruises, resulting in my looking like a giant panda, and having to cancel the engagement.

Last week when I arrived at the speaking engagement facility I discovered to my horror that I had left all my notes behind! My first reaction was akin to panic, even though I had rehearsed repeatedly that day, and even days before, what I was going to say. Next, I told myself to stay calm because I had a good message to deliver, and a nice gift for them.

As their business meeting progressed, I quickly made some notes of the key points and stories I wanted to cover. Fortunately, I had arrived early, and had spoken to several women before things got underway and who warmed up to me when I told them who I was. When they heard the title of my speech was “Life Is A Firewalk” they were even more intrigued.

Once I was introduced by the president, Nancy Conti, (an introduction I had written earlier for her) my adrenalin, and 27 year's Toastmasters International experience kicked in! I was able to tie in how my first firewalk, in 1989, with Tony Robbins changed my life! I was 56 years old at the time. I explained how we all have a “firewalk” to overcome in our lives, whether it be the loss of a relationship, family member, job, home, pet, etc. That then becomes our “story.”

Our “story” becomes how we live our lives! The stories I selected to share were powerful and personal: the women in jail that I taught and got permission from the Sheriff’s Dept., ROP, and the San Mateo County Bd. Of Education, to teach some Tony Robbins skills. How we can live in two different time zones simultaneously, as I did when my family and I emigrated from England to the United States but I left one foot back in England (and only had one foot here!) How living in the past can zap our energy and impede us from living life fully in the NOW! I think you get the message.

I did not hold back anything that I felt would serve the goal of showing these women how to overcome any adversity that life throws at us. I explained how “Journaling” has helped me to overcome many adversities, including loss of a job, a fractured back, and an escalating mortgage all in the same year! I shared who my heroes are and why I enjoy teaching “Journaling for Success” workshops.

Right in the middle of my presentation a woman yelled out “You’re a National Treasure!” Now I know I’m only 75 years old but I’ve never been called a “National Treasure!” This woman inadvertently made my day! They loved it when they found out I had a website and two blogs, that I’m an avid oil painter and pet lover. As a result, I am mulling over my priorities. Have I missed my calling?

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Speaker ● Writer ● Artist
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2008 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you.

AREA CONTEST TOASTMASTER

2008-09-11T09:12:00.001-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG

If you ever get the opportunity to be the Toastmaster for any of the Annual Contests, Area, Division or District, I urge you to accept it! Regardless of how long you’ve been in Toastmasters it’s a special learning experience. Put all fears aside and tell your ego to be quiet, you can do it!

Last weekend, September 6, 2008 we held Area 18 and Area 23 Humorous and Table Topics Contests at the Tri City Hospital classrooms. Magic was in the air as folks gathered about sharing stories, friendship and rehearsing their Humorous speeches. There’s something about competing that changes the energy in a room! It is truly an exciting experience!

I was the Toastmaster for the Area 18 Humorous and Table Topics Contests! At first, I wasn’t sure my energy would hold up because we had a full contingent, 5 contestants in each contest! This also meant I had to keep proceedings moving if I wanted to bring the Contests in on time!

Once I hit the stage, I need not have worried however. My adrenaline and Toastmaster experience kicked in, I let go of my ego, and concentrated on the task at hand. It was pure joy being on the other side of the fence for a change. After years of being “trotted out” by my Toastmaster Club to be a participant in any contest, I was now playing the reverse role!

When you see and hear every contestant giving it their “all” you realize we are all winners regardless of where we place in a contest! A highlight for me was having a total stranger, a man in his 40’s, jump up on the stage early in the Contest, to tell me he “loved my energy!” Then, he said “look around you, it’s contagious!“ Not too shabby for a 75 year old recovering from some broken bones!

At the interval, between contests, some folks came up to me to tell me how much they enjoyed my energy and handling the job of Toastmaster! H’m, more music to my ears! And, to think I was concerned I was too slow entering and exiting the stage without my cane! When it was all over, other folks lined up to shake my hand and tell me how much they enjoyed my Toastmastering and humor! OK, ego, that’s enough for now!

I truly believe one of the highlights for me was “interviewing” the contestants after each Contest. I was struck by how many folks were self employed … the backbone of America! They recognized the value of what Toastmasters is all about … the listening, writing, feedback, speaking and leadership skills! These skills would help them in relating to their clients and living the American dream! My hat is off to them!

You can be sure I have happy memories to fall back on when life gets tough! I can’t wait to be Toastmaster of a Contest again! If this septuagenarian can do it, you can too!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Artist ● Speaker ● Writer
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2008 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you.

SUMMER ENDS WITH A BANG!

2008-08-24T17:50:00.000-07:00

BY Shirley M. Carolan

This year I will not be sorry to see summer come to a close. I never thought I’d ever say that but for me, this year, it’s true. August was a very busy month and took up a lot of time and energy doing press releases for several professional organizations to which I belong.

Also, I started a paper newsletter for my Carlsbad Tick Talk Toastmaster Club, coming up with a title, the “Tick Talk Tatler.” Designing, and laying out columns reflecting the diversity of our club has also been a challenge. I’ve initiated a column entitled “Toastmasters on the Go!” to honor those Toastmasters who are using their public speaking. writing and leadership skills beyond the club level. However, I think the challenge and time expended will pay off for our club in attracting new members, and rewarding current ones. It’s really a great public relations tool and a labor of love!

The Labor Day weekend will see the first annual Village Faire Art Festival, co-sponsored by the Carlsbad Oceanside Art League, of which I am VP of Public Relations. I wrote several newspaper press releases on this event as well as delivering flyers to various businesses around town. It promises to be a popular attraction because there is something for every age group. Families are particularly welcome. There will be a live model and live drawing and painting demonstrations. Folks can buy art supplies at a small fee and participate in the fun.

Artists, using a variety of media, e.g., paints, watercolors, oils, acrylics, sculpture and photography will demonstrate their work and skills. I will be sharing a booth with another artist and displaying some of my oil paintings on Saturday, August 30.

There will be live music throughout. It is open to the public and is free. So, come on down to the Carlsbad Village Faire Shopping Center at 300 Carlsbad Village Drive, Carlsbad, from 10 AM to 4 PM both days and enjoy a fun Labor Day Weekend!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Artist ● Speaker ● Writer
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2008 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you.

TOAD HALL AHEAD!

2008-07-31T15:09:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan

For all you writers, speakers, and others who may need some uplifting thoughts today, I think you will enjoy this article. Hopefully, it will take you back to your childhood to discover what your favorite book from childhood was and how it may have impacted your life! It’s something you can write an article about, include in a speech, and lift your spirits.

Recently, I was reading Writer’s Digest on-line and really enjoying it. Then I saw a question that rang a bell with me. The author was feeling nostalgic and wanted to know what childhood books had had an impact on us. Without skipping a beat, I decided to respond.

Without a doubt, for me, it had to be “Wind in the Willows” by Kenneth Grahame. I loved how he introduced little animals into the story and gave each its own unique personality and character, as well as the way he painted word pictures of each character and scene. Some characters are easy to understand like “Ratty” and “Mole,” others like Mr. Toad, were more complex; he was a bit of a braggard and I identified with him. The story is fun, easy to read, and a wonderful adventure.

To this day, I lovingly pull out this book, read it and transport myself back in time. It has had a profound effect on my life. I remember visiting Disneyland in Anaheim in my forties, years after I’d emigrated from Great Britain to America.

I chose to go on the river/canal ride that takes you along river banks and childhood stories and events. I distinctly remember the guide calling out “Toad Hall Ahead!” I could hardly believe my ears. Quickly, I jumped up, nearly capsizing the boat and the rest of the passengers, and screamed “Let me out! Let me out! I want to see Toad Hall and talk to Mr. Toad.” My eyes caressed the rolling green hills and what I perceived as Toad Hall in the distance.

To my chagrin, and everyone else’s utter annoyance, I was unceremoniously told by the guide to “Please sit down before your capsize this boat!” Then it dawned upon me that there was no way I was going to see Toad Hall or have a one-on-one chat with Mr. Toad and tell him how much I enjoyed his adventures as a child and how much I identified with his personality...

I think it’s safe to say I’d still be there now if the guide at let me off at Toad Hall and who knows the mischief Toad and I would have fallen into... my kind of mischief! But, I can dream can’t I? That incident happened over 30 years ago but I still remember it fondly to this day So what childhood book has had a significant impact on your life…why?

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Artist ● Speaker ● Writer
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2008 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you.

FINIS! A Labor of Love Completed

2008-07-13T17:08:00.000-07:00

by Shirley M. Carolan

IT FINALLY HAPPENED! THE END OF A PROJECT! Today, July 13, 2008. All you writers out there will appreciate my excitement and enthusiasm.

YIPPEE! It’s over! It’s been a work in progress for a long time. I never thought I’d see the day when I would finally finish an eBook that I hope will inspire others, get them to think about how they are living their life, be honest with themselves, especially if something needs changing, not expecting others to change for them, and then taking the appropriate action to live a richer, fuller life!

It's been enlightening, sometimes sad, sometimes painful, sometimes humorous writing about the myriad events and people in my life and what I discovered needed changing and daring to go for it! I am truly grateful to all the folks who gave me feedback, they didn't hold back anything! Even my doctor said "Shirley, folks of all ages will enjoy these insights but I hope you will address the senior citizen population too!"

Culling all the articles was perhaps the hard part and selecting those that had a true, viable message for others to enjoy was a huge challenge. I have enough chapters and articles left over to either do another eBook or think of converting into a full blown book!

Right now my focus is on editing the material and getting an ISBN number then loading it onto my website for others to see, download and enjoy!

My labor of love is entitled: “IT AIN'T OVER... TILL IT'S OVER!"

THE 3 M’S of TOASTMASTERS

2008-06-26T15:22:00.000-07:00

MEMBERSHIP - MENTORING - MAGAZINE

BY Shirley M. Carolan

When folks find out I’ve been in Toastmasters International since 1981 they often ask why do you stay in Toastmasters? My immediate response is that for me it is a way of life! It has been one of the few constants for the last 27 years!

I feel this can further be broken down into three significant benefits: Membership, Mentors and Magazine.

Membership
When you join Toastmasters International you have joined one of the most prestigious, international, educational, organizations in the world! Not many organizations can boast this. I believe it is the largest, non-profit organization in the world! Members are committed to learning how to be better communicators, listeners and better leaders. This translates into being better workers, managers, leaders, teachers, parents, etc.

Mentors
You immediately have access to the finest mentors in the communications field at no cost!. Whether you avail yourself of that expertise is up to you. I suggest that you do because it will speed up your learning curve in communicating your thoughts and ideas substantially. My club has mentoring program and I consider it an honor and a joy to mentor others. It’s a win-win situation for both parties.

Magazine
The Toastmaster magazine is one of the finest, glossy, educational magazines in the world. It is printed in over 30 languages and distributed throughout the free world. Forbes magazine would envy us. A visit to world headquarters in Mission Viejo, which I highly recommend, will bear this out. It’s a thrill to see our magazine in so many different languages waiting to be shipped out.

If you would like a copy of the complete article, please contact me at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Artist ● Speaker ● Writer
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2008 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you.

“HOW TO EXPAND YOUR VOCABULARY!”

2008-05-30T20:34:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan

Here's a simple, painless and fun way to expand your vocabulary! Read on.

Whenever I am the Table Topics Master, at my Toastmaster Club, I choose the “word of the day” to accompany my Table Topics, which Toastmasters must use in their Table Topics. Often I am told “that’s an interesting word! Where of how did you find it?”

I have to give credit to doing daily crossword puzzles. Nary a day goes by that I don’t complete at least one crossword puzzle. Even if it’s midnight, I cannot go to sleep without doing a puzzle! Since words are my passion, I am fascinated by uncovering new words and meanings to words. I don’t always agree with the choice of word in the puzzle but I learn volumes because this gets me to think about what word I would prefer to use. Hence, I am always building or adding to my vocabulary.

If you are not an aficionado about crossword puzzles now, I urge you to try completing one and see what new words you will learn as a result. It’s an overlooked pastime, or game, that can pay dividends in your career, especially if you are in a management position. Take the daily newspaper with you wherever you go and find a few minutes here and there to complete the crossword puzzle.

This wonderfully overlooked learning tool can work for you especially if you are sitting in a doctor’s, dentist’s office, waiting for a bus or train, eating lunch alone, or are even on a coffee break. You learn while you wait! Once you’ve completed one crossword puzzle don’t give up. The following day try another puzzle. The fun of completing and “outwitting” the experts can gradually become a daily habit with you too! Before you know it, you will be amazed by how much your vocabulary has improved!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Artist ● Speaker ● Writer
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2008 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you.

HOW TO STREAMLINE YOUR SPEECHES!

2008-05-23T17:02:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan

When you first join Toastmasters International it is very tempting to want to tell your audience everything you know about a specific topic. Take it from a 27 year veteran, that isn’t the best way to go!

One of the toughest lessons I had to learn is that “Less is More!” I didn’t conquer this lesson overnight. It took several years to appreciate and understand the benefits of this. First, I had to conquer the fear that others would think I didn’t know my subject if I didn’t include everything I knew about it. Then I ran l amuck trying to select only the salient points. Organizing them into a logical flow was another challenge. After all, everything in Toastmasters is timed and I needed to be sure the material I did select would hold up under scrutiny with an opening, body, and close!

It is far better to leave your audience clamoring for more than to overdo it with minutiae , especially with clichés, pet words, and jargon. The mind and the seat can only absorb so much. Better to save some material for a follow-up speech than to overdo it.

Boredom can also cause you audience to tune you out. While the topic may be of utmost interest to you, if you’ve not engaged your audience, or given them something to think about or take action on, then you run the risk of losing them!

Here are a few tips to help you streamline your talk:

• Start your presentation with a quote, statistic, or controversial idea is a good way to grab their attention.

• Use a handout to give more details or examples.

• Use slides, an overhead projector, flipchart, or music to create a mood.

• Ask your audience a question(s ) at the start or even conclusion..

• Tell your audience you’d be happy to send them more information if they’d like to leave their name and email address at the end of your presentation.

These are just a few tools to help you streamline your presentation so that it flows, is interesting and lets the audience know you are an expert on your subject. Hence, Less is More!

Stay tuned for more tips!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Artist ● Speaker ● Writer
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2008 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you.

WHAT'S NEW?

2008-05-12T17:04:00.000-07:00

Two major projects are taking up my time right now.

1. Recently I received several phone calls about my "Journaling For Success" classes. Yes, I am going to conduct them again! I am looking for an appropriate meeting room to hold these classes. I want it to be easily accessible from a freeway. Also, I want to keep the fee down and so want to find a venue that will pick up the insurance, in case of accident or injury. If you know of any places I might check out please contact me immediately, either by phone (760) 732-0663 or email: artistwithaflair@att.net!

2. I am in the throes of combining several of my blog articles with other unpublished articles I've written and am creating an "inspirational/motivational" book for women over 40 to read, enjoy, and start making better choices for their life styles. The baby boomers will definitely benefit from it. It will start with my first "Firewalk" with Tony Robbins in San Francisco when I was 56 years old and how it changed my life right up until I'm ready for Eternal Hills, together with the ashes of my little Pug/Terrier "Jake."

Stay tuned for more!

POSITIVE ENERGY HEALS!

2008-04-23T18:17:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan

We’ve all been around folks who are not very happy, either with themselves, or with life. As a result, we can often get sucked into their negative energy (aura) and start feeling down too, if we are not careful, or are unaware of what’s happening.

How refreshing it is then, to meet someone with a positive attitude, no hidden agenda, and a joy for life! Just being around someone like this is a blessing! One quickly forgets what might not be working in one’s life when we encounter someone with a joie de vivre ! Our energy is improved and so is our outlook. We literally savor the experience.

The latter happened to me recently when I ventured out to meet the public for the first time, after a dreadful accident almost 4 weeks prior, when I had a nasty fall, smashing my face, breaking my nose, and pulling some tendons in hands and legs and ended up in an ambulance being rushed to the local hospital. The fact that the huge black and purple circles around my eyes were still visible troubled me. I still had quite a swollen lip, my teeth hurt, and the skin was pulling all down the left side of my face so I had to forego makeup. That also bothered me. I hadn’t left the house without makeup since my pre-teen years and now I was a septuagenarian! I remember vividly asking the E/R doctor how I looked because I am quite vain, and there were no mirrors around, and he said “beautiful!” H’m. This guy was in the wrong profession!

But, as fate would have it, it was my turn to “sit the gallery. “ I’m a member of the Carlsbad Oceanside Art Leauge (COAL) and part of our dues, if we hang a painting at the gallery, is to pay a small hanging fee and sit the gallery for one session. Officers are exempt from sitting (the gallery), and, being an officer (Publicity Chairperson) I could easily have passed on this. However, I love to meet and talk to the public, find out what they are interested in, which paintings, sculptures, photos, etc. appeal to them and why. I love it when folks come in from other parts of the country too and I get to know what it’s like to live in another state or region.

This was the scenario two weeks ago when it was my turn to sit the gallery. I was settled in at the front desk when in bounced these two women. They whizzed through the gallery and returned to the section reserved for the “Artist of the Month” exhibition. This month it was a famous watercolor artist. They were in animated conversation when in worked the artist in the flesh! Apparently the three were friends.

After a few minutes I heard one woman say “I’ll take that one! My husband will love it too.” Hello, was I experiencing a fantastic sale so early in the day or, was it a joke? Further conversation ensued and I heard the woman say I just love this “Phoenix and the Mission” watercolor. Sure enough the woman was serious and I got to write up the purchase.

As I completed the paperwork I congratulated her, and asked her where she intended to hang the painting. She smiled, a bit sheepishly, and said that she had lost her house and all her belongings in the wildfires last fall in Fallbrook and that she had nowhere to hang it at the moment. Again, I took in a deep breath as I weighed the situation. This was pretty heady stuff. The painting was quite expensive, just under a thousand dollars and the buyer didn’t even have a wall to hang it on!

H’m what to do … I quickly called the Gallery Manager and asked him where they kept the “sold” stickers at the gallery. Whereupon he told me the client could take the painting with her once it was paid for. Then I told him the dilemma and there was a pregnant pause at his end. It was agreed the client could leave the painting at the gallery until the end of the month when a new exhibition would take over. I quickly made up a “sold” sign for her and placed it on the painting. The woman was overjoyed with her purchase, just like a kid in a candy shop. I just had to admire her courage and gift of life.

I asked her was she going to rebuild in Fallbrook and she said “Yes!” However, things were moving slowly and the Fire Department had come up with new regulations to make fighting such dreadful blazes more easy. It also meant thousands more dollars would be added to the price of the new home. She seemed undaunted ... almost matter of fact. Then she said her husband was a collector and had lost everything in the fire. But they were going to pick up the pieces and start anew. Again, I congratulated her on her positive outlook and philosophy and wished her well.

After the three friends departed I sat quietly and reflected on the scene of a few minutes ago. I was feeling euphoric and then it hit me. How would I act, or react, if I had just lost my beautiful home and all my possessions? Would I feel like buying a beautiful, expensive, watercolor with nowhere to hang it? Would I even be out gallivanting with friends? I think not. My reaction would probably be much more somber.

However, I’ve discovered a very important lesson from this experience. Since then, whenever I’ve felt down in the dumps, disappointed, frustrated, annoyed, or angry at anyone or anything, I’ve thought about the woman who has lost everything she ever loved, bought, or collected in one fell swoop, and how her spirit has remained positive, friendly, and almost childlike! If she can exhibit such joy and pleasure at life after losing everything, then I can certainly handle the minor, ego-driven things in my life! She has certainly helped me to put things into perspective and, for that, I am eternally grateful!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Artist ● Speaker ● Writer
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2008 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you.

“HOW TO CONVALESCE IN STYLE!”

2008-03-31T15:22:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G

The fickle finger of fate can impact anyone of us unexpectedly at any time. We never know when adversity is going to hit, and if you’re like me, you certainly don’t go around expecting it or preparing for it. It can happen in an instant, even on a bright, warm, sunshiny day, while walking your dog, with birds chirping and blossoms opening and sharing their fragrance with a promising world.

That’s what happened to me on Sunday, March 16 (Palm Sunday) when adversity reared its ugly head and literally struck me in the face!

Voila, my right foot hit an uneven chink in the sidewalk sending me unceremoniously, catapulting head first to kiss the pavement! The impact was sudden, loud, and excruciatingly painful. I knew I was in trouble when I saw the blood flowing down the sidewalk into the street. My head was pounding but I was able to see out of one eye and finally was able to hear my voice cry out for help. Unable to move a muscle I saw my little dog bend over me and lick me. I knew she was OK and then I realized I am alive, I am alive!

Returning home from Tri-City Hospital emergency room was an ordeal and I was now faced with some unexpected downtime while my broken nose, ribs, and assorted bones healed. I was now determined to make the most of my recovery time. I share that journey with you now:

1. Doing a daily crossword puzzle became my favorite pastime. It was a positive experience because I learned new words, improved my vocabulary. As a speaker and writer, this was a definite win-win “situation.” I am a daily “crossworder” anyway but this extra downtime helped further increase my arsenal of “words!” No speaker or writer could want for more and the daily newspaper costs so little!

2. Reading one of the numerous books I’d purchased on Amazon was one option. Alas, I found my attention span wandered and I was not able to concentrate … so serious reading was replaced with more frivolous stuff!

3. In my head I wrote rough drafts of future speeches, articles, and blogs. Thoughts and ideas just seemed to flow to me non-stop. Writer’s cramp would not be a problem for me!

4. As each day passed and I was able to do more physically, I sat at my computer and banged out my wonderful thoughts, ideas, dreams, etc. Seeing them take more concrete shape inspired me and impelled me on.

5. Daily seeing and experiencing improvement physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually had a profound positive impact on my state of mind and well being. My energy was gradually returning. My sense of gratitude multiplied as I vowed never to take my life for granted again, or for that matter the world around me! Taking time to smell the roses, admire nature at her best, being cognizant of the wonderful gifts, talents, hobbies and friends that make up my life.

Vital Lessons I Learned While Convalescing!
Healing time after any accident or loss can vary from individual to individual. It depends on each person’s mindset (physical and mental makeup). Hence, I want to share some important observations I made and perhaps they will help you if you ever become momentarily disabled. Since I can be a workaholic, I learned not to set impossible standards/tasks for myself at this time of great incapacity. I learned to be grateful each day for what I could accomplish! Just seeing a small improvement in daily activities can bring a smile of acceptance to even the most jaded among us.

Here are some other gems.

For those who can’t say “No” This is for the “people pleasers” among us, myself included! I was amazed how often I would give in to others requests of my time, energy, skills, expertise, etc. when interrupted by a phone call or email from someone. Wow, this had to stop. I needed to respect and appreciate my time and talents more. I made up my mind to do that henceforth, especially after I recovered. While, I don’t like to say NO, whether to a client, friend, neighbor, Toastmaster, or someone from my volunteer activities, I quickly discovered that not everything has to be handled right then and there when asked to do so.

For example, if some writing project was expected of me, such as a press release or newspaper article, and the event was way in the future, I suggested that the caller e-mail me all the details so I could absorb it in more detail (and at my leisure). This cut down the time listening on the phone when I was not feeling up to par. It also conveyed to them I was interested in their project, and it left me feeling more professional! Yea, it bought me time to heal and not expend valuable energy!

This downtime certainly made me aware of some behavior I needed to change and incorporate when healed and dealing with others in the future. So, let me recap here what I learned:

DO:

1. Set boundaries on your time, energy, people, priorities!
2. Be firm with yourself and others … this may take practice but will pay dividends!
3. Be aware of what you can do at this time and prioritize those things
4. Do keep a Journal of your thoughts, feelings, and progress – it could be worse!
5. Learn to compromise. You can’t always say “yes” to others. Find new ways to handle others’ requests and get results without compromising your own healing time!

DON’T:

1. Say YES to every request. Choose wisely what you can handle, let go of the rest.
2. Don’t let others sidetrack you, or start feeling sorry for you! You are not a victim! You are merely choosing to use your time/skills/energy/money, etc. more purposefully!!
3. Feel guilty because you’re taking care of yourself (for a change) you deserve it.
4. Trade war/horror stories with callers, neighbors, friends – it drains you of energy, and nothing gets resolved
5. Play the victim role or obsess over why this accident happened!

You can Convalesce In Style! Regardless of your occupation, writer, speaker, artist, etc. there is something to be learned while going through recovery from any situation. Use your downtime to do some real soul-searching on how you live your life, how you see yourself and who and what’s truly important to you!

A votre santé!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Artist ● Speaker ● Writer
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2008 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you.

“IT’S LEAP YEAR – SO WHAT?”

2008-02-29T21:16:00.000-08:00

by Shirley M. Carolan

How wonderful to get a year with an extra day in it! It’s like getting a bonus. I wonder how many people are taking advantage of today and what they are doing to celebrate it?

I remember when I was a young girl we were taught that Leap Year was very special because if you were unattached, or did not have a steady boyfriend, when Leap Year came around you could ask the boy, or man of your dreams for a date, a dance, a favor without feeling the least bit forward or out of place. You could even ask him to marry you!

How quickly time, and customs change. With female emancipation has come the freedom of asking for what we want, when we want it, without having to wait four years to have “permission” to do so. Yes, the 21st century has changed a lot of customs and yesteryear seems quaint by today’s standards.

Be that as it may, I intend to honor Leap Year, not just February 29, but the entire year! I have a feeling that some wonderful events, happenings, and opportunities will occur for me this year. Hence, I know my Journal will be kept busy recording these wonderful events,

When the year is over I will be able to look back on my writing and speaking gigs and see what interesting events and opportunities unfolded and what new friends and customs came into my life as a result. I might be tempted to ask would these things have happened had it not been Leap Year? Who knows, but it’s fun to dream, isn’t it.

Meanwhile, I wish you all a very happy and productive Leap Year!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Artist ● Speaker ● Writer
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.shirleycarolan.com
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2008 by Shirley M. Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net. Thank you.

WHY TAPE RECORD YOUR SPEECHES?

2008-01-28T15:08:00.000-08:00

By Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG

Often folks who know I’ve been around Toastmasters for a few years ask me “What’s the best way to improve my speaking skills?” Without skipping a beat I usually say “One of the best tips I’ve learned, as a Toastmaster and would-be speaker, is to tape record my speeches after I’ve written a final draft.” It helps me to hear how my voice sounds and whether the material flows.

Here’s a short list of questions I ask myself: Is it well organized or does it need some more editing? Does it address the objectives of the manual speech? How is the pitch and the tone, too fast, too slow? Does it have too many repeat words or phrases? Can an audience understand the flow and purpose? Did I include something for the audience to chew on?

Once I’m satisfied with the material I try to listen to it whenever I can.... sometimes driving to work, getting caught in traffic, or driving down the freeway are good times to play it. Each time I play it and hear it I get more comfortable with it, until finally, I feel I own the words. This doesn’t mean that I sound like a parrot but it cuts down my fear of public speaking and gives me confidence in knowing that I am well prepared.

When it’s time to give my speech to a live audience I like to tape record it again. However, if you belong to a Toastmaster Club that is lucky enough to have a video camera you may want to use that as well. I know Toastmasters who then post their speeches on their websites or have copies made to sell down the road.

And, over the years, I’ve even learned to tape record my Evaluator’s comments too. It’s another educational tool or bonus to help me improve my speaking skills. So why not take advantage of everything Toastmasters has to offer?

Regardless of why you joined Toastmasters, whether you aspire to become a professional speaker, are an entrepreneur who must market yourself to others, or have received a promotion and now must conduct meetings, your credibility and success will be greatly improved when you take the trouble to record yourself.

The next time you prepare to give a speech, I urge you to take a few minutes during rehearsal and ask yourself the above questions about your material. When you are comfortable and sure that you’ve covered all the bases the next step is to tape record your material. Only you will know when you are ready to do this. If necessary, remind yourself of the benefits you will gain from taping your speech:
Here are a few benefits to consider:

• You will cut down on rambling
• You will hear how you sound delivering your material
• You will stop needlessly repeating yourself
• You will avoid jargon, slang and misunderstood terminology
• You will avoid crutch words and overuse of pet phrases
• You will avoid outworn or overused clichés
• you will be able to adjust your pitch, volume, pace!

I leave you with these thoughts: “Words are the poetry of the soul! They are as unique as your fingerprints. You owe it to yourself to leave the finest imprint!™ Stay tuned. My next session deals with “Why You Should Use A Videocam in Your Presentations.

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Artist ● Speaker ● Writer
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2008 by Shirley Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any portion of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net.

GOAL SETTING FOR THE NEW YEAR!

2007-12-31T22:44:00.000-08:00

By Shirley M. Carolan

December is my favorite month not because of Christmas and New Year’s, all the giving and receiving, parties, great food, and catching up on friends’ lives, but because it’s a great time of reflection and how my overall year turned out.

I enjoy looking back and seeing how all the events came about, assessing what went well, what did not, what needs changing, what relationships grew, which ones changed, what I learned, what I’m more grateful for, etc. Now, I understand why it’s said that “masterpieces take time!”

My life is far from being a masterpiece but going into my 75th year I feel I’ve at least put a few layers of paint on the canvas. As a result, I don’t make New Year’s resolutions any more because I find I’m not held accountable if I give up or change my mind about a resolution. Whereas setting a goal is much more meaningful. It gives some direction and meaning to my life. It gives me a challenge, a reason to get out of bed in the morning, and the opportunity to celebrate when the goal is completed, it gives me a sense of fulfillment, and joy that I can trust myself when I put pen to paper and commit to doing something.

It also means the journey isn’t over once a goal is completed. It means that I am ready to commit and continue on the journey of discovery… This year, I commit to having more fun in my life and stop worrying about finances, and/or jockeying for position to get clients to write for, or lucrative speaking engagements, or preparing and delivering motivational workshops.

I intend to do more oil painting, take pictures of nature with my new digital camera, and do more writing, articles, eBooks, blogs, etc. I’ve signed up for sketching classes through Mira Costa College and digital camera classes through Vista Adult Ed. What fun! Being a senior today is wonderful because there are so many classes out there to take whether it’s for a hobby, upgrading professional skills, or learning new work skills!

This year I learned that it’s OK to exhibit some of my oil paintings at an art gallery. At first, I dreaded letting go of my art work because it was like letting go of a baby. Today, I am at peace with letting go and joined the Carlsbad Oceanside Art League (COAL) and exhibited some oil paintings there. I’ve also met some wonderful new friends and great artists that I can learn more from.

At Christmas, I indulged in another hobby, astronomy. The first Christmas gift I bought this year was a telescope. I so want to see Mars and the rings around Saturn again and this is the perfect time of year to do that. Back in the early 1980s I took an astronomy class at the College of San Mateo. It was the last science class I needed to get my AA degree and it was one of the most fascinating classes I’ve ever taken. It was a time when Carl Sagan had his popular series “Cosmos” on PBS television. We were also lucky the college had a huge telescope to view the universe.

Yes, I am looking forward to the New Year! Whether I make a lot of money, or not, is immaterial because I will be doing what I love, writing, oil painting, and viewing the heavens! And, you can’t put a price tag on that!

Happy New Year all!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Artist ● Speaker ● Writer
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

CHRISTMAS 2007 AT OUR HOUSE!

2007-12-28T11:16:00.000-08:00

by Shirley M. Carolan

It was a quiet but peaceful Christmas this year. The newly adopted traditions that I had so carefully put in place these last few years fell by the wayside, i.e., the Oceanside Harbor Annual Boat Parade (Holiday of Lights)and a different rendition of The Nutcracker! Some totally unexpected trauma entered my life instead. Little did I know it would bring some new perspectives, observations and gratefulness on my part.

My little Shih-Tzu, Krissy, had major surgery on her left eye, December 19th by gifted ophthalmologist Dr. W. A. (Dean) Vestre because of two ulcers. She came through it with flying colors and wears a “lampshade” to protect her little face. Prior to that we went through two weeks of different medications with her regular veterinarian. Finally, her vet suggested a second opinion by an ophthalmologist. The diagnosis and fees were staggering; to date $2,500.00.

Today, Krissy is recovering nicely and getting some of her old personality back. It’s a joy to hear her little bark, if you can call it a bark. She has taught me some valuable lessons: patience, humility, acceptance, love and gratefulness. What precious gifts to receive at this sacred time of year. And, you certainly can’t put a price tag on those!

As a result, I will no longer call her “selfish or demanding” when she wants or needs something. She has her boundaries and I need to honor them. She has given up her regular habits and independence to be cared for instead. She has been a real trooper and in her own little way has taught me some important life lessons!

This downtime gave me the perfect opportunity to assess how well my year went, what worked, what didn’t, what needed changing, and what goals I want to set for the New Year! All very heady and time consuming stuff. I will be addressing these important issues in a later blog.

Meanwhile, Christmas was quiet but blessed at our house this year!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Artist ● Speaker ● Writer
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

CARLSBAD OCEANSIDE ART LEAGUE

2007-12-13T16:24:00.000-08:00

By Shirley M. Carolan

It never ceases to amaze me that one of our best kept secrets is the Carlsbad Oceanside Art League, affectionately known as COAL.

If you are looking for something special this Christmas for a loved one, or even something beautiful and decorative for yourself, why not visit this best kept secret in town – the Carlsbad Oceanside Art League (COAL) at 300 Carlsbad Village Dr., #101.You will find oil paintings, water colors, mixed media, photography, and sculptures, etc.

After much harranging with myself, I finally gave myself permission to exhibit another oil painting for sale. While I don’t consider it my best work by any means I am exceedingly happy to be able to let go of one of my “babies.” Yes, artists consider their work just like giving birth to a baby and are very attached to their work. I am no exception either, so it is a major breakthrough for me. This means I will have more wall space at home to produce more paintings as I let go of others that I have clung to.

It also means that in the New Year I am going to be much more productive. I’ve signed up for several art classes starting in January and want to learn more techniques of using the palette knife. I love 3-dimensional art!

I’d like to extend an invitation for you to visit the galIery over the Holidays. I will be sitting the gallery on Friday, December 21 from 11AM to 2 PM and will be happy to show you around. The Holiday viewing schedule has changed so you may want to call first to be sure they are open at 760-434-8497.

I look forward to seeing you there!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Artist/Speaker/Writer
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
http://www.angelscross.blogspot.com
http://www.smcarolan.blogspot.com

THANKSGIVING & BLESSINGS

2007-11-23T15:04:00.000-08:00

By Shirley M. Carolan

Thanksgiving is one of my favorite holidays. For my family and I, it holds very significant memories. We were living in London, England in 1947. World War II had ended the summer of 1945, yet England was still on food rations in 1947. That November, my parents announced to my twin brother and I that we would be emigrating to America shortly. We were 14 and a half at the time.

We boarded the SS AMERICA at Southampton, England on Thanksgiving Day, November 27, 1947 and set sail for New York. At the time we did not know the meaning of Thanksgiving Day but we soon found out. At first, we were quite overwhelmed by the wonderful food and fresh fruits. During the war, we had not seen bananas or peaches, or even white bread. It was a novelty to take these back to our cabin to eat. We were not sure if we should peel the fruit first and had to ask our parents.

Eggs where another novelty. At breakfast, the steward asked how my family would like their eggs served? There was dead silence. He persisted … sunnyside up? …over easy? …hard boiled? They settled for sunnyside up which became their undoing because when the eggs arrived and the cheerful yolks looked up at them they bolted from the huge ship’s dining room, not to be seen, or heard from again until we were close to New York harbor.

Indeed, I was the lucky one because I couldn’t eat eggs and thus my long anticipated freedom to explore this magnificent ship on my own was now realized. However, not to be outdone, my twin brother did not eat all of his eggs and thus insisted upon accompanying me.

As we surveyed the various decks and assorted amusements we entered an Ice Cream Parlor. We were in heaven ordering and eating ice cream sundaes until we tried our first Coca Cola and got quite a shock because it reminded us of cough medicine we were forced to take when ill. H’m …

Since that first Thanksgiving I’ve enjoyed this holiday in various settings. While I never married or had children to share this lovely holiday with, I’ve never lost my childhood fascination with the meaning of Thanksgiving. In recent years, I’ve set my own traditions. Yesterday was no exception. After giving morning thanks and watching the Macy’s Day Parade, I took my little Shih-Tzu, Krissy, down to Carlsbad by the sea to enjoy a stroll along the boardwalk.

It was a magnificent afternoon with the sun shining warmly on my back and bouncing off the waves in majesty. My spirits soared as I breathed in the beautiful fresh air and observed the wonderful Pacific Ocean. How lucky I felt to be living in this wonderful paradise! Tourists and residents were out in full swing. I exchanged pleasantries with so many people I was almost hoarse when it was time to come home. Dog lovers and owners were also out in full force. There were so many breeds to ooh and ahh over. Krissy got her fill of pats and loving too. One young lady even asked could she have a picture taken with her!

Then I came home to Cornish Hen, Brussell sprouts, yams, pearl onions, stuffing, etc. Dessert was a surprise. Ah yes, I have so much to be thankful for as well as blessings galore!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATMG
Artist/Speaker/Writer
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
www.angelscross.blogspot.com

REFLECTIONS

2007-10-09T15:15:00.000-07:00

by Shirley M. Carolan

This has been a year of considerable reflection for me. It started, quite naturally, by journaling my feelings about HOW and WHERE my life was going, while keeping in mind if the direction I was headed towards was OK with me ... the kinds of gems I teach my clients when they attend either my JOURNALING or GOAL SETTING seminars.

To be sure, it’s a process and it can be long, short, or even arduous. In my case it’s been extremely arduous! That’s because I had conflicting goals and aspirations. I wanted to have a thriving writing business as well as a lucrative speaking business.

Today, I realize there is nothing intrinsically wrong with that if you are in your 30s, 40s or even 50s, and want to do both, to the exclusion of everything else. Or, your early formal education prepared you for entrees into such careers. But it’s a bit overwhelming if you’re launching both in your 70s! Not that I was literally starting from scratch mind you. While life was happening to me I was always busy on the side dabbling in both careers. I allowed “survival” to be my mentor, yardstick, and constant companion.

Perhaps St. John’s University in New York was right after all. I was taking English Lit and Poly Sci at night, back in 1962-64, while working full time as an executive secretary to the President of the company. I thought my identity then was my two-piece suit and title. St. John’s suggested that I major in English and get a BS degree. At the time, that seemed ridiculously easy to me. But that’s for another article.

Today, I am literally ridding myself of all the “fluff,” the good but sidetracking events, seminars, people, books, obstacles, both real and imagined, that I allow to impede my progress. It’s euphoric but also quite scary because it’s letting go of the familiar that I’ve surrounded myself with and quite literally striking out on a path that acknowledges my true purpose and mission in life! Why, it’s like doing a firewalk all over again with Tony Robbins but this time around I intend to succeed! This time around however, I have a wonderful, supportive, professional team who want me to succeed and won’t let me fail!

Stay tuned to learn more about my new venture and how journaling is opening the doors to success!

Shirley M. Carolan
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0332
www.shirleycarolan.com
http://smcarolan.blogspot.com
http://angelscross.blogspot.com

MIRA COSTA COLLEGE CALLING!

2007-09-18T17:34:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan

It is with great delight that I inform you Mira Costa College renewed my contract to teach “Journaling for Success” again this fall. If you missed the first class in September, don’t worry, there’s still time to register for the October 9th class.

As many of you know, Journaling is my favorite tool to get centered mentally, emotionally and spiritually! It has helped me to avoid many pitfalls and decisions I might later regret by getting in touch with my “gut” feelings. It amazes me sometimes how quickly I am ready to give my power away to others only to rue it later. That’s why I devised a whimsical “What’s Bugging Me” form. I get to lay out in writing “What’s Bugging Me,” “Why It’s Bugging Me,” “What Can I Do About It?” and lastly “What Did I Learn” from journaling about it.

But, that’s only one of the tremendous gifts of Journaling! I came up with a personal list of 30 ways to use Journaling successfully. Here are ten, not necessarily in order of importance but to give you an idea of the broad range of subjects where Journaling can further help you on your journey through life:

• A tool to take ACTION instead of procrastinating
• Attract people you want in your life at a new level of AWARENESS
• LOVE yourself more and stop putting others’ needs ahead of your own
• Let go of anxiety, especially over the things that you can CONTROL
• LET GO of the deadbeats and unsupportive people in your life with love
• DEFINE your own values and beliefs not those handed down to you
• Take back your POWER instead of being a people pleaser all the time
• Gain CLARITY about your life and what’s most important to you
• Learn how to ACT versus re-act to people, places, and things
• DEAL WITH “unfinished business” in your life–it’s blocking positive energy!

I trust the above will whet your appetite! If you are unable to attend the hands-on workshop on October 9, I will be happy to send you the Workbook for the small fee of $12.99, tax included. It is self-explanatory with lots of good tips, stories, anecdotes, and exercises you can do at leisure. It follows the workshop verbatim!

To register on line for the class please go to: www.miracosta.edu/Instruction/Community Education. This will lead you to “Community Services and Business Development classes.

I look forward to meeting you in class!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATM-G
Speaker/Freelance Writer
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
artistwithaflair@att.net
www.shirleycarolan.com
http://angelscross.blogspot.com

Copyright© 2007 by Shirley Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any portion of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net.

REWARDING MENTORING!

2007-08-30T15:30:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan

This summer I had the privilege and opportunity to mentor three young professional women through their “ Icebreaker” speeches at my Carlsbad Toastmaster Club #2113, Tick Talk Toastmasters! They are from diverse backgrounds and bring a plethora of talent and experiences with them.

Lest you think Toastmasters is dull and repetitive, let me tell you a little bit about these amazing young women. One is a mortgage broker (her own business), one is a professional chef, employed by a very prestigious San Francisco Bay Area restaurant, and one is a very gifted artist, author, and teacher. Two of them one the “Best Speaker” trophy the night they spoke. The third one also would have won this distinguished award had she not , unfortunately, ran a little over the time limit. That’s right, you heard right … the time limit!

Everything in Toastmaster is timed, from the start of the meeting, through Table Topics, Prepared Speeches to Evaluations. For some this is a turnoff but for others they appreciate learning how to express themselves succinctly, without using a lot of unnecessary verbage, and boring an audience to death! It’s an art form but anyone with the desire can learn how to speak in public at the drop of a hat without going to pieces. I’m told the No. 1 fear is America is still the fear of public speaking, and not the fear of dying!

Getting back to the young mentees. The mortgage broker was seduced by an opportunity to get her college paid for if she enlisted in the US Army. Her stories of boot camp/training while hilarious are also a testament to her character and discipline! We were all mesmerized by the ordeals this petite young woman experienced.

Our professional chef told us about her first interview after graduation and how tough it was to convince the Head Chef that she had what it takes to handle an 8hr day job, standing on her feet, chopping, grinding nuts, fava beans, etc. with a pestle! She showed us her burn scars with pride saying they were her “medals” in her profession. And we think enduring a 1-2 interview session with a panel of people is tough!

Our artist/author riveted us with her story of being born deaf, learning the American Sign Language to communicate with family and friends. Her world was totally silent until she was about 9 years old and scientific advances changed her life forever so that now she can hear and communicate beautifully. Her artwork is outstanding and encompasses many cultures. She is written up in several magazines.

Again, it was a joy for me to work with all these talented young women. They are a joy to be around and a joy to watch grow! They will certainly leave their mark in their respective fields and then some! After 26 years in Toastmasters International I am still learning! The folks you meet are inspiring and stimulating. Why not check out a Toastmaster club near you by going to www.toastmasters.org

Shirley M. Carolan
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0332
www.shirleycarolan.com
http://smcarolan.blogspot.com
http://angelscross.blogspot.com

Copyright 2007 by Shirley Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net.

CAVEAT EMPTOR!"

2007-08-30T14:36:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan

Regretably, I have not written in some time. You might say the muse left me. I’m now trying to get on with my writing projects and my life after a traumatic ordeal which began last spring.

Buying a new computer (regardless of the make) with all the latest bells and whistles and attendant software should be a fun and memorable experience. After all, it’s not an everyday occurrence. Alas, since last spring that has not been the case for me.

Let me begin with the end in mind: DO NOT PAY CASH OR BY CHECK FOR ANY MERCHANDISE PURCHASED FROM A RETAIL STORE! You may already be aware of this. I was not. I paid for my new Hewlett Packard computer system by check instead of using a credit card. This action has literally haunted me.

If you pay by check, or cash, beware, if the merchandise is defective, for whatever reason, you, the consumer, must bear the brunt/responsibility of getting satisfaction from a vendor. This can be a very time-consuming, frustrating, income/money losing proposition and a very stressful experience. I experienced this when I bought my new computer system at Fry’s Electronics in San Marcos in March 2007!

The system crashed innumerable times, was fixed twice at the store, the first time requiring a new motherboard; a 3rd time, a technician came to my home to repair/assess the problem, and it crashed again shortly thereafter. The store manager would not let me exchange it. Recently, an exchange was made but not like for like merchandise. Instead, a Hewlett Packard computer was inadvertently exchanged for a Compaq Presario costing much less …

The moral is: Always use a credit card when buying merchandise from a retail store. The bank, or credit card company, will pursue claims of defective merchandise far easier and more quickly than you can. While they do the pursuing, and you get your money back if that’s what you want, you can sleep soundly at night!

Shirley M. Carolan
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0332
www.shirleycarolan.com
http://smcarolan.blogspot.com
http://angelscross.blogspot.com

Copyright 2007 by Shirley Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net.

WIIFM - "WHAT'S IN IT FOR ME?"

2007-06-23T19:29:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan

Whether you are a novice or a seasoned speaker, if you incorporate “WIFFM” into all of your presentations you will succeed in capturing your audience’s attention,loyalty and patronage. That’s a pretty strong statement but it works every time.

For starters, what is “WIIFM?” WIIFM is an acronym for “What’s In It For Me?” WIIFM is very simply having and keeping your audience’s interest and attention uppermost throughout your entire presentation. Any presentation you give must address what’s of importance or of interest to your audience.

How can you be sure this will work for you? Before you script any presentation take a moment and ask yourself the following questions:

• Why have they come to hear me speak?
• Is it because I am an expert in my field?
• What are their needs, wants, goals, objectives?
• What are their expectations?
• Do I have the requisite skills and knowledge?

Now ask yourself “what are MY objectives? What would I like them to take away today?

• An idea
• A valuable shortcut
• A new product, research, etc.
• A commitment to take action on something?
• A cosr effective business technique?
• A desire to learn more and become my client?

Once, you know your audience, what makes them tick, why they are here, and can answer the above questions truthfully, you are on your way to success! You will be able to demonstrate your integrity and credibility, combined with your business expertise! This is also known as a win-win situation.

You may be the novice speaker or new Toastmaster reading this and saying “Yes, but ... what does this have to do with giving manual speeches? Good question! Everything! Once you know your audience’s expectations you will know how to fill them and leave them clamoring for more!

Start now to think about your audience first, their expectations and then craft your presentation around their interests. It’s a matter of WIIFM!

Most folks fail to do this because they are too busy “telling” the audience something vs. "showing” them. Why doesn’t this work? When you “tell” the audience something you run the risk of being boring, preachy, self-absorbed, uncaring, and/or totally inept. (Incidentally, I’ve written about this topic previously entitled “Show ...Don’t Tell! Please check out my blogsite http://smcarolan.blogspot.com to see the entire article)

You also run the risk of rambling because your presentation is not organized into meaningful parts, i.e., an opening, a body, and a conclusion! There are no transitions between the parts, nothing in it for the audience, and nothing to keep their attention focused on what you are saying. Consequently, folks will tune out on you. Later on, they may even misquote you because they take things out of context because they didn’t fully pay attention to what you said! Good organization, therefore, is tantamount to giving your audience what it needs and deserves!

Paying attention to and incorporating these few tips into your next presentation will pay you dividends! It will catapult you from being a mediocre speaker, give you more credibility in your chosen field, name recognition, and a desire by others to do business with you!

Voila, you have killed two birds with one stone and are on your way to speaking success and/or increased business!

If you would like more information on how to structure a presentation making good use of WIIFM, please email me your request and I will be happy to send you my free article “How To Use What’s In It For Me (WIIFM) Effectively!” My email address is: artistwithaflair@att.net.

Shirley M. Carolan
artistwithaflair@att.net
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0332
www.shirleycarolan.com
http://smcarolan.blogspot.com
http://angelscross.blogspot.com

Copyright 2007 by Shirley Carolan. All rights reserved. To reprint any part of this article simply contact Shirley Carolan at artistwithaflair@att.net.

“OCEANSIDE 15th ANNUAL DAYS OF ART”

2007-05-31T16:12:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan

This year marked the 15th Annual Art Show in Oceanside in April. It followed on the heels of Mira Costa College Theater’s wonderful production of “Lend Me A Tenor!“ which I wrote about earlier. What a great weekend of cultural activities in our little town. We are blessed in Oceanside to have such outstanding events. I’m sure when that new downtown hotel is completed the guests will come flocking to see what we have to offer.

This year the Show was even more exciting and interesting. Despite inclement weather where I live, I was delighted when I reached the coast to find beautiful sunshine and good parking. This is one event you won’t want to miss next year so be forewarned to mark your calendars now!

As usual, there was something for everyone from young tots to seniors like myself. There was food, sweets, live music, dancing, in addition to all the wonderful art work from pottery, exquisitely blown glassware, oil paintings, watercolors, mixed media, carvings, etc. I renewed acquaintances with folks and artists that I met last year and beyond. I found the artists so eager to talk about their work and share “secrets” with me. Artists are definitely a different breed of cat from other types of professionals. They seem so laid back and not at all pushy or needy, or hustling you to buy their wares! How refreshing!

I was overjoyed when I came upon one of my favorite artists, Jacqueline Tyree. This spry young woman of 84 is a living legend. As an oil painter myself, I appreciate her beautiful seascapes of the San Diego area. She is a member of the San Diego Art Guild and her paintings are on display at “On Track” gallery in Encinitas. Also, you can learn more about her and her paintings can be seen on www.coastalartprints.com. She caught me mesmerized by one of her paintings and came over to talk to me. This year she shared her secret for drawing people quickly on canvas. Last year she showed me a short cut to drawing all kinds of birds. I am indebted to her professional expertise. In seven years of taking oil painting lessons I had not learned these wonderful techniques.

In addition to her beautiful paintings she has photos of her work made into greeting cards. Don’t you know I was the lucky recipient of one of them entitled “Surf’s Up.” She generously placed one in my hand as I started to depart.

Jacqueline is just one of the many artists you will enjoy meeting and hopefully going home with a piece of her art. Other folks told me about the Vista Art League and the great exhibits there on Main Street. Since I intend to join an Art Guild this year to exhibit and sell some of my own oil paintings I am also going to check out the Carlsbad Oceanside Art League which also had several members exhibiting their work at this show.

As a result of hobnobbing and enjoying all this art I decided to upgrade my computer, email system, etc. I wanted digital pictures of my work for my new website, etc. Unfortunately, Windows Vista has proved to be a really unexpected challenge. I’ve had several computer crashes as a result of incompatible software, as well as losing many files and articles, including this original article. Hence, I’m cutting this article a bit short because I have some follow-up stories I want to share with you.

In the meantime, here’s my new email address: artistwithaflair@att.net. I look forward to hearing from you and definitely seeing you at next year’s Art Show.

Shirley M. Carolan, ATM
Artist ● Speaker ● Writer
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
artistwithaflair@att.net
www.shirleycarolan.com
http://smcarolan.blogspot.com
http://angelscross.blogspot.com

MIRA COSTA COLLEGE WORKSHOPS

2007-05-21T12:01:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan

It is with much delight that I can tell you that my Mira Costa College “Journaling” workshops have been confirmed and are being offered on the main, Oceanside, campus this summer. If you did not receive their summer brochure, the classes are scheduled for Saturday, June 9 from 9:00 am-12:00 pm, Saturday, August 4, from 9:00 am-12:00 pm, and Tuesday, July 10 from 6:00 pm-9:00 pm.

The workshop is entitled “JOURNAL YOUR WAY TO SUCCESS!” ‘Take a journey to healing, wholeness, and self-discovery. This unique and revealing workshop will help you to identify the areas of your life that need more attention and will equip you to address your unfinished business. By the end of the course, you will have a clearer picture of what success means to you and a plan for using the skills you already possess to achieve your goals.’

For more information on registration please contact Mira Costa College directly at http://www.miracosta.edu/commsvcs, or, call 760-795-6820. I look forward to seeing you in class! If you have any further questions feel free to contact me at 760-732-0663, or artistwithaflair@att.net.
Thank you.

Shirley M. Carolan, ATM
Speaker•Writer•Artist
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
artistwithaflair@att.net
www.shirleycarolan.com
http://smcarolan.blogspot.com
http://angelscross.blogspot.com

2007-05-21T11:55:00.000-07:00

“LEND ME A TENOR”

2007-04-25T20:20:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan

As a young girl raised and educated in London, England I grew up with a love of the English language and a passion for Shakespeare, for his astute way with words and particularly his gift of farce. Later, I was selected to act in many of his plays. As a result, I knew most of his soliloquies by heart. Upon emigrating to the United States, the nuns at Queen of the Rosary Academy, Amityville, New York promptly entered me in the Long Island Oratorical Championships, feeling I had the best chance to represent the Academy. Alas, my English accent worked against me as I was considered a "professional."

But, I never lost my love for words. To this day, I firmly believe that "Words are the poetry of the soul. They are as unique as your fingerprints. You owe it to yourself to leave the finest imprint!©" Theater continued to be an important part of my life. Living in New York, I was in awe of all the Broadway productions. It was a smorgasbord of talent, sights and sounds. I tried to see as many plays as my meager salary allowed.

Moving to San Francisco in the mid 1960s was also a thespian’s paradise. I bought season tickets to ACT so that I would not miss out on the theatrical scene. Of course, like any great cosmopolitan city, it also offered wonderful Opera and exquisite ballet. "The Nutcracker" quickly became my favorite. To this day, Christmas is not Christmas for me without seeing some performance of The Nutcracker! How fortunate we are in San Diego County to have so many venues to choose from!

Methinks I have digressed too much. I only wanted to show how much I enjoy theatre and that we are so lucky to have the best at our fingertips! I speak of Mira Costa College Performing Arts Theater here in Oceanside, CA. They just changed their name to "Mira Costa Theatre Spotlight Circle." Last Saturday night I saw the wonderful production of Ken Ludwig’s "Lend Me A Tenor," directed by Eric Bishop. If you like farce then this will be your cup of tea. As Eric Bishop says "Farce is one of the most demanding of the comic performing styles. Playing farce requires a learned style of acting that embraces heightened reality. It requires a great deal of skill, commitment, courage, cracker-jack timing, vocal energy/power, specificity and pure physical stamina."

Seeing this production brought back fond memories of my own professional stage debut in 1994 in the British comedy "It Runs In The Family" by Ray Cooney, at the Alterena Playhouse, Alameda, CA. In addition to learning the rigors of comedy, we also had to learn how to enter and exit the stage appropriately, since the Alterena Playhouse is a theater-in-the-round and at any given time we would have our backs to one side of the audience. The role of "Matron," the head nurse of a London hospital was tailor made for me. Albeit I did have to learn how to act mean and project my voice. Ah, but the roar of the crowd, the curtain calls, and meeting the public in the foyer at the end of every performance were more than worth it!

Again, if you like theatre, particularly farce, I encourage you to see this delightful production of "Lend Me A Tenor," at Mira Costa Theatre Spotlight Circle. The Theatre is conveniently located right off Highway 78 at College Boulevard. The address is One Barnard Drive, Oceanside, CA.
Reservations can be made at the box office: 760-795-6815. Senior citizens get a special rate. Unfortunately this is the final weekend of this wonderful production. No excuses, just pick yourself up and treat yourself to a wonderful evening or matinee! You'll be glad you did!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATM
Author • Writer • Coach
Carolan Communications
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
carolcom@qwestinternet.net
www.shirleycarolan.com

WHO SAYS OCEANSIDE IS A CULTURAL VOID?

2007-04-25T10:58:00.000-07:00

By Shirley M. Carolan

For far too long, I feel that Oceanside has been the brunt of snickers that we, as a community, are devoid of cultural events, educational opportunities in the Arts, Art Shows, galleries and wonderful theatre and film.

This past weekend, I got out of my usual rut and excuses and had the cultural time of my life! I didn’t wait for others to decide to go with me, as I generally do. Instead, I chose to go alone despite what seemed like inclement weather on Sunday and had the time of my life!

The point is, whether you are young, old, retired, married, widowed, divorced, single, or even physically challenged, there is something in this wonderful town for everyone’s taste and pocketbook! As a young at heart, mature, high-energy, accomplished, single woman, I can vouch that my generation is certainly not excluded or wanting for cultural and fun things to enjoy in Oceanside.

While I feel I have just scratched the surface of what my town has to offer, my whole world has just done an about face! I hope you will read and enjoy the following two events I attended this past weekend. Perhaps they will inspire YOU to attend Mira Costa College’s wonderful theatre treats, and next year’s Annual Art Show. In fact, next year I intend to exhibit my own oil paintings at the Show! See you there!

Shirley M. Carolan, ATM
Author • Writer • Coach
Carolan Communications
Phone/Fax: 760-732-0663
carolcom@qwestinternet.net
www.shirleycarolan.com